Would You Date Someone Who Wanted To Wait Till Marriage?
I sincerely do not believe that anyone can accurately make a negative decision on sexual compatibility based on one encounter. I have a lot more than my story to back the conclusion up. Do with that information what you will.
Well of course you can't accurately make that call based on one sexual encounter. Part of the sexual compatibility is being able to deal with it when the sex goes wrong without that ruining the relationship.
I think people were more suggesting being in a serious relationship where you are having sex before taking the step of marriage not meeting someone and then just having sex one time to determine if it should be lasting or not. Probably, good to know before marriage if the person is mature enough to not walk out suddenly if the sex isn't great every time.
This is exactly what I was suggesting and I don't get the confusion with this at all. lol
Glad to hear it, but I do know plenty of people who have walked away if the sex wasn't mind blowing the first time. It happens. I cannot know what any one person means when they talk about checking compatibility first unless they specify. I try to never assume.
I wasn't suggesting to walk away if things weren't perfect, but you did seem to assume.
That's why you should attempt many times before committing.
Sorry about the seeming to assume thing. That is why I preceded my first post with “your statement simply provides a reference point.”
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If there was an option I would choose "I'm a man and maybe."
But leaning towards no. What if you marry and then find out on your honeymoon that you are completely sexually incompatible? You try and work on it, but you just don't work well together in that way. So what, you're both stuck in a sex-less marriage until you die or go through a divorce? Not to mention, I'm an agnostic leftist, and "wait 'till marriage" types generally (not always) also carry strong conservative and/or religious beliefs that would probably lead to some heated disagreements.
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But leaning towards no. What if you marry and then find out on your honeymoon that you are completely sexually incompatible? You try and work on it, but you just don't work well together in that way. So what, you're both stuck in a sex-less marriage until you die or go through a divorce? Not to mention, I'm an agnostic leftist, and "wait 'till marriage" types generally (not always) also carry strong conservative and/or religious beliefs that would probably lead to some heated disagreements.
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For me it would be necessary to more rigorously define "waiting for marriage". At one time I dated a young woman who said she was saving it for marriage but her definition of what she was saving was extremely narrow, so I it was not a sexually frustrating experience for me.
Maybe there should be more choices.
Without getting too graphic, I enjoy sexual experiences and while it isn't the only, or most important thing, it is still a big thing. I definitely wouldn't call good sex an insubstantive part of a relationship. But I have pretty high drives I guess.
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Without getting too graphic, I enjoy sexual experiences and while it isn't the only, or most important thing, it is still a big thing. I definitely wouldn't call good sex an insubstantive part of a relationship. But I have pretty high drives I guess.
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