Marknis wrote:
I still remember those words from my ex-friend the night she called me to tell me she didn’t like me anymore and our friendship was over. My heart still hurts from what she told me and I haven’t been able to make a better life for myself since she decided she no longer liked me.
I misread this post wrong, but I will tell you again that she's not for and she was not worthy of you or your time in the first place. Believe me, she has problems of her own. It also sounds like your life is better off without her because she didn't sound like a supportive friend to begin with.
On the other hand, I know how you feel because I had people suddenly drop out of my life who I came to know and trust only to have them let me down because they didn't like me. It hurts because you feel betrayed and you invested a lot of time and energy into that relationship.
For example, I was close with this other woman who I met an autism support group years ago. One week I was invited over to her home for Christmas dinner and gifts and the next week she wanted nothing more to do with me. Suddenly she turned very cold and said hurtful things to me. Believe me, I didn't handle that situation very well at all because I thought she was my friend. However, she was not a good friend to me and did apologize for it.
Here are some tactics
1. Art therapy - drawing, painting, sculpting, or even poetry as to how you feel
2. Writing fake letters to her
3. Positive affirmations on rejection and depression
4. If you need to cry it's ok, that's just you healing and letting go of the pain
5. Find a new therapist who uses a narrative-based therapy as they are much more gentle
10 May 2021, 10:28 pm
