I got stood up - no reason given

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I heard from a woman on an online dating site. She immediately gave me her number, which struck me as unusual, but I rejoiced at the speed with which we could transfer to voice, because I prefer talking to typing.

Upon calling her, she had little to say. I did almost all the talking, she was very quiet even though I paused often to give her a chance to speak. The most I could get out of her was "yes", "uh-huh," "sure," or "no". If a question required more, she would supply the minimum. She had no questions for me at all. She gave only the vaguest details about her life.

Another thing I noticed was she coughed quite a bit, yet denied being sick. Honestly, I thought she had just been doing bong rips when I called. I thought she was quiet because she was high.

She invited me out for drinks that same night, which also shocked me. I declined, because I don't drink. I suggested instead that we go out to a nice restaurant on Saturday at noon, and she accepted. I thought the idea pleased her. I asked her whether she liked Thai food, she said yes. The time, 12pm, good? Yes. I even texted her the exact location, so that she could use her phone to get there. The restaurant was a 40 mile drive for me, but only 10 miles for her.

Well...12pm rolls around, I'm sitting in the restaurant with my iced tea. No show. No text, no message, no call, nothing.

What is gained by this kind of behavior? Why not just tell someone that something came up, you can't come?
I bought lunch anyway for myself, came home and wrote a brief message to her: "You stood me up, why?" I doubt I'll get any reply.

My best guess is she went out drinking with another guy. Probably getting drunk is what she was after. Am I right?

I have no need for booze and so am like an alien from another planet.

Thank goodness I am corresponding with other women.

.. she either flaked or ..

she slept in .. maybe got so caught up in what to wear (women can do this) she knew she wasn't going to make it .

Have you spoke since ?

she might have issues .. could have caught anxiety attack .

her lack of talk might be an indication . she might have ASD .. and good at text but terrible at umplanned conversation

.. also .. did you message her before to let her know you were still meeting ?

some people have iffy behaviours , especially without any social ques being displayed towards them .

i've had friends who arrange to go somewhere or for a drink .. the day rolls around and no correspondance even though it was their idea .

If someone is giving you really short answers then there's something up. Could be high, as you suggest. Could be at work and not supposed to be on their phone. Could be looking after a hyperactive kid, or trying to cook. Maybe in a room with their husband / partner. On a train, in a library, in A&E. Loads of reasons.

What's revealing is that they didn't offer an explanation, and you didn't ask for one, yet you pressed ahead with arranging a date anyway.

Pain in the butt being stood up!

I sense that she was probably lazy, and didn’t feel like getting out of the house. I know she was impolite.

I would just move on, chalk it up to experience.....

.. as others have pointed out .

she is very sketchy .. and might have a partner .. or even likes to keep strong privacey .. gotta say i know a few people like that . having phobe convo infront of others is not ideal .

without explanaition or pressing the issue , i guess you're remain without answer .

atleast a bit of common courtesy would be nice . you don't even know her and she doing this . be glad you didn't get in deep . for her to vanish .

too many people hold no value on communication these days .. and hide behind the brickwall

I've been stood up for blind dates too, so don't assume it's only guys who get treated this way.

You'll probably never know the "reason" for it, but be grateful that you dodged a bullet with this one. I would not contact them again.