Should I feel sexually guilty if I want to hook up?

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22 May 2021, 8:34 pm

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In Australia we have no more community transmission (only hotel quarantine for returning travellers) so restrictions have been mostly lifted but many customers are choosing not to go as they are forced to register their presence at brothels. Married men and men in relationships are the biggest customers and none of them want to be tracked.

Secondly I think the 1m rule applies so the girls might choose to wear masks which I'm guessing is a big turnoff.


Jablowski + mask = huh?


Jablowski?



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26 May 2021, 1:33 pm

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Totally random question here, but is prostitution allowed during lockdowns?

Are sex workers considered an essential service?

I hadn't thought of that angle before. Where I am people can't even see their partners, let alone touch.
Legal? Nope! Essential? Well... :wink:

Escorts in my city resumed working since May 2020, when the scamdemic was still going strong. I had sex with them anyway, with French kissing and everything. They were happy to have a client, I was happy to get my rocks off. Win-win! Plus, while diddling escorts, I was worried about worse viruses than the Election Infection; although since I wore a rubber penile mask, I didn't get any of them. I'm just glad I wore a polyester facial mask on the train ride back; otherwise, my happy, goofy grin would have incriminated me.



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26 May 2021, 1:53 pm

Ya screw guilt!


The New Testament and Paul esp. does not seem to anticipate this autistic dilemma, where social quirks that you have limited control of get in the way of finding or gelling with a partner.

Could be all the stuff against casual sex in the NT is more about cheating on a long term partner than what we deal with.



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27 May 2021, 10:25 am

No, you should not feel guilty.

Dogma & indoctrination shouldn't rule one's life, thoughts, conscience etc.

It's your life. Live it. Enjoy sex, feel good, do no harm to others. Everything will be just fine. 8)


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27 May 2021, 10:28 am

cyberdad wrote:
funeralxempire wrote:
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In Australia we have no more community transmission (only hotel quarantine for returning travellers) so restrictions have been mostly lifted but many customers are choosing not to go as they are forced to register their presence at brothels. Married men and men in relationships are the biggest customers and none of them want to be tracked.

Secondly I think the 1m rule applies so the girls might choose to wear masks which I'm guessing is a big turnoff.


Jablowski + mask = huh?


Jablowski?


BJ


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27 May 2021, 1:27 pm

Just don't announce it.

Most women still find it negative, the proof is that a lot of women's dating profiles state "no hookup!" or "looking for a serious relationship, no hookups please" , even on TINDER which is meant to be a hookup app! Laughable!

I never found any one of them there talking positively about hookups.



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27 May 2021, 8:34 pm

Oh okay, but I do want to be honest and not give any fraudelant impressions of my intentions. However though, I would say that more women are interested in hook ups then a relationship in my experience. Because I can get woman to hook up with me, but I cannot get a relationship.

So it seems to me that it's the opposite, and they are easier going and less picky with who they hook up with compared to who they date, but that's just been my experience.



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28 May 2021, 12:53 am

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Oh okay, but I do want to be honest and not give any fraudelant impressions of my intentions. However though, I would say that more women are interested in hook ups then a relationship in my experience. Because I can get woman to hook up with me, but I cannot get a relationship.

So it seems to me that it's the opposite, and they are easier going and less picky with who they hook up with compared to who they date, but that's just been my experience.


Yep, women are pretty much gay men, so, makes sense. :p


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28 May 2021, 2:42 am

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Oh okay, but I do want to be honest and not give any fraudelant impressions of my intentions. However though, I would say that more women are interested in hook ups then a relationship in my experience. Because I can get woman to hook up with me, but I cannot get a relationship.

So it seems to me that it's the opposite, and they are easier going and less picky with who they hook up with compared to who they date, but that's just been my experience.


It depends much on your looks. ;)

And your location.



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12 Jun 2021, 9:47 am

Well one person advised me that if I want a relationship, why not persue austistic women, but they seem hard to find and I feel I would be limiting my options even more.

Unless it's the opposite and I would be focusing on the best options maybe therefore, if I spend my time persuing them only?



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13 Jun 2021, 11:10 am

:idea: Why not just hookup with whoever you want to and then if one of those turns into a 2nd date, a 3rd, and a relationship you're both into.. just roll with it?


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13 Jun 2021, 9:19 pm

Oh well it's just that women are usually only interested in hooking up and not dating so I thought I had to do something else, or make other changes, rather than just role with it.



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13 Jun 2021, 10:18 pm

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Oh well it's just that women are usually only interested in hooking up and not dating so I thought I had to do something else, or make other changes, rather than just role with it.


Why would you have to do anything?

Fk whoever you want to, with their consent of course, and date whoever you mutually agree to date, too. It's your life, do who and what you want.


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14 Jun 2021, 12:02 am

Oh well it's just it's hard for me to form relationships, probably because I am autistic so I feel like maybe I am doing something wrong or should be doing something different rather than not do anything.



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14 Jun 2021, 12:11 am

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Oh well it's just it's hard for me to form relationships, probably because I am autistic so I feel like maybe I am doing something wrong or should be doing something different rather than not do anything.


If you don't try you'll never know



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14 Jun 2021, 12:44 am

But what I meant was how do I try correctly? I've tried forming relationships several times, and it doesn't work well, so shouldn't I doing something more specific rather than just try the same thing over and over again?