Why does socializing seem a waste of time

Page 1 of 3 [ 33 posts ]  Go to page 1, 2, 3  Next

Doc_Daneeka
Pileated woodpecker
Pileated woodpecker

User avatar

Joined: 3 Jul 2007
Age: 47
Gender: Male
Posts: 195
Location: Toronto. But we call it Tarana.

22 Jul 2007, 12:14 am

Perhaps I am just weird, but isn't WP just a form of socialising?



woodsman25
Supporting Member
Supporting Member

User avatar

Joined: 18 May 2007
Age: 39
Gender: Male
Posts: 2,064
Location: NY

22 Jul 2007, 2:21 am

yes i suppose it is

BTW Doc_Daneeka

I am looking in your direction right now, as I live right on lake ontario, somewhere out their is your city, kinda a weird thought, heh

maby u will receive this message while i am looking out on the horizon towards your general area.



Sopho
Veteran
Veteran

User avatar

Joined: 3 Apr 2007
Gender: Female
Posts: 10,859

22 Jul 2007, 2:51 am

It's a waste of time for me. I find it both boring and exhausting.



TheMachine1
Veteran
Veteran

User avatar

Joined: 11 Jun 2006
Gender: Male
Posts: 8,011
Location: 9099 will be my last post...what the hell 9011 will be.

22 Jul 2007, 3:16 am

Doc_Daneeka wrote:
Perhaps I am just weird, but isn't WP just a form of socialising?


Yes a high percentage of WP is mere socializing. :) Personality I'm trying to do less of it
and make more posts thats have general utility. But this post was pretty much pure socialising. :D



edal
Veteran
Veteran

User avatar

Joined: 4 Jul 2007
Gender: Male
Posts: 739
Location: Gyor, Hungary

22 Jul 2007, 6:04 am

YEAH!! !! A big thank you to aimeeandbeatles.

I don't mind going out with friends to see a movie or a show. I don't mind going out with friends if we are heading for an outside event. I even don't mind going out with friends if we have a trip planned.

However.........

I don't see the point in going out with friends to a bar somewhere, drinking expensive drinks and eating VERY expensive bar snacks whilst breathing in other peoples tobacco smoke. All of this is accompanied by idle banal chit-chat about nothing in particular whilst some of my (single) friends unsuccessfully try to pick up girls. This is not my idea of a fun evening.

Ed Almos



fion
Emu Egg
Emu Egg

User avatar

Joined: 2 Feb 2007
Gender: Female
Posts: 6
Location: Purgatory

22 Jul 2007, 7:33 am

I guess it depends on what kind of "socializing" you're talking about. Chit chat is a big waste of time to me. Even though I get lonely sometimes, I just can't stand talking or hearing about pointless things. @[email protected] Do you ever notice people basically just reiterate the same things back and forth in conversations?



nannarob
Veteran
Veteran

User avatar

Joined: 13 Apr 2007
Gender: Female
Posts: 1,083
Location: Queensland

22 Jul 2007, 8:33 am

For many NTs, socialising is networking - a way to make contacts to better their chances at work.

I hate inane chit chat.


_________________
NEVER EVER GIVE UP

I think there must be some chronic learning disability that is so prevalent among NT's that it goes unnoticed by the "experts". Krex


nobodyzdream
Veteran
Veteran

User avatar

Joined: 23 Apr 2007
Age: 40
Gender: Female
Posts: 1,267
Location: St. Charles, MO-USA

22 Jul 2007, 8:45 am

I hate socializing too for that main reason. I just don't get why it's important to do small talk, etc. About the only time I can really get interested in it is when it comes to problem solving of any kind. I don't really care about the situation, though the details are needed to figure out a solution, but it seems people don't generally want a solution-they just want to gripe and pretend they want an answer or ideas on what to do. They also tend not to want to look at an entire situation rather than just their version of it. /sigh


_________________
Sorry for the long post...

I'm my own guinea pig.


Greentea
Veteran
Veteran

User avatar

Joined: 14 Jun 2007
Age: 59
Gender: Female
Posts: 4,745
Location: Middle East

22 Jul 2007, 1:42 pm

I think you people are confusing socializing with shallow, irrelevant, stupid talk (usually with shallow, stupid people) that is a waste of time indeed. Socializing needn't be boring and pointless. Eg: today I had lunch with my new colleagues, and the conversation was about the food we were eating and our impressions on it, our desired travel destinations, our previous jobs, etc. It was interesting... While at my previous job I used to go crazy from the ridiculous chit-chat, and I was admonished by Human Resources for not participating in it much.


_________________
So-called white lies are like fake jewelry. Adorn yourself with them if you must, but expect to look cheap to a connoisseur.


richie
Supporting Member
Supporting Member

User avatar

Joined: 9 Jan 2007
Age: 62
Gender: Male
Posts: 30,142
Location: Lake Whoop-Dee-Doo, Pennsylvania

22 Jul 2007, 6:19 pm

It is compulsory socializing that boils my blood. The one thing I hated as a kid was
being forced to attend another child's birthday party*. Later as an adult people tried to engage
me in idle chit-chat about sports or workplace politics or gossip.
Here on WrongPlanet I can pick and choose which conversation I want to participate in, and
choose who or what topic do I respond to.


*Read Kassiane's article about this.



AlexUK
Raven
Raven

User avatar

Joined: 11 Dec 2005
Gender: Male
Posts: 114
Location: England

22 Jul 2007, 6:24 pm

Depends on who i`m with..... Strangers is what i would call a living hell in the middle of a nightmare whereas socializing with CLOSE friend and family is thoroughly enjoyable. Private parties are pretty good as well but a bar, pub, club etc HELL NO :x

I guess that a typical AS trait, despise that thats far and love that thats near.....

Alex(uk)



0_equals_true
Veteran
Veteran

User avatar

Joined: 5 Apr 2007
Age: 38
Gender: Male
Posts: 11,038
Location: London

22 Jul 2007, 6:32 pm

I agree that it is roundabout and inefficient. That's what makes it so hard to understand, it is overly complex.

The more I study it, the more I realise the NTs have the ‘skills’ without necessarily being fully aware of what they are doing. It is not their fault.



LKL
Veteran
Veteran

User avatar

Joined: 21 Jul 2007
Age: 45
Gender: Female
Posts: 7,402

23 Jul 2007, 10:25 pm

My pet peeve is the 'How are you' that people throw out all over the place. The only socially acceptable answer is, 'Fine,' regardless of how you actually are, and 99.9% of the time the person asking the question doesn't care if you're lying or not.



UrbanStrike
Hummingbird
Hummingbird

User avatar

Joined: 25 Feb 2007
Gender: Female
Posts: 21

24 Jul 2007, 1:52 am

I hate small talk and a good majority of all socializing.

Most people nowadays ramble on and on about what they have, do, done, etc... Without letting you get a word in edge wise.



SonofStorms
Blue Jay
Blue Jay

User avatar

Joined: 10 Jun 2007
Age: 47
Gender: Male
Posts: 83
Location: U.S. New Hampshire

24 Jul 2007, 2:19 am

edal wrote:
YEAH!! !! A big thank you to aimeeandbeatles.

I don't mind going out with friends to see a movie or a show. I don't mind going out with friends if we are heading for an outside event. I even don't mind going out with friends if we have a trip planned.

However.........

I don't see the point in going out with friends to a bar somewhere, drinking expensive drinks and eating VERY expensive bar snacks whilst breathing in other peoples tobacco smoke. All of this is accompanied by idle banal chit-chat about nothing in particular whilst some of my (single) friends unsuccessfully try to pick up s. This is not my idea of a fun evening.

Ed Almos


I agree here...the only other time socializing does not bother me is when i'm playing cards...I kinda need others around to do that...



Pandora
Veteran
Veteran

User avatar

Joined: 17 Jun 2005
Age: 60
Gender: Female
Posts: 3,553
Location: Townsville

24 Jul 2007, 5:24 am

UrbanStrike wrote:
I hate small talk and a good majority of all socializing.

Most people nowadays ramble on and on about what they have, do, done, etc... Without letting you get a word in edge wise.
Or looking at me strangely when I say something.

I do enjoy socialising to a degree but it's got to be with people who know me and my few eccentricities.


_________________
Break out you Western girls,
Someday soon you're gonna rule the world.
Break out you Western girls,
Hold your heads up high.
"Western Girls" - Dragon