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10 Jun 2021, 4:31 am

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I would recommend that she babysit or get a job. This doesn't make any sense.
Getting a babysitting gig is not really a viable option for lots of people rite now due to the pandemic unless they have established connections like family & close friends who are in the market for a babysitter. Lots of people are working from home, going out less, & more wary about non-immediate family entering their homes & being physically close to their kids. Some or a lot of that may be very dependent on where the OP & her girlfriend live though. Jobs can be very difficult to obtain nowadays as well partly due to the pandemic increasing unemployment. Also lots of jobs don't accommodate for the flexibility needed to allow employees to take a vacation rite after getting hired. Some jobs don't allow employees to take vacations until they've been there a year & then they're allowed one week for the following year that has to be scheduled at least a month in advance. If the girlfriend or the OP currently has a job that would allow them to work some extra hours rite now or if one of them has a family member or friend who would hire em to help out with some chores & yardwork at their house, that would probably be more profitable & easier rite now than starting the Only Fans thing.


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10 Jun 2021, 8:13 am

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I would recommend that she babysit or get a job. This doesn't make any sense.
Getting a babysitting gig is not really a viable option for lots of people rite now due to the pandemic unless they have established connections like family & close friends who are in the market for a babysitter. Lots of people are working from home, going out less, & more wary about non-immediate family entering their homes & being physically close to their kids. Some or a lot of that may be very dependent on where the OP & her girlfriend live though. Jobs can be very difficult to obtain nowadays as well partly due to the pandemic increasing unemployment. Also lots of jobs don't accommodate for the flexibility needed to allow employees to take a vacation rite after getting hired. Some jobs don't allow employees to take vacations until they've been there a year & then they're allowed one week for the following year that has to be scheduled at least a month in advance. If the girlfriend or the OP currently has a job that would allow them to work some extra hours rite now or if one of them has a family member or friend who would hire em to help out with some chores & yardwork at their house, that would probably be more profitable & easier rite now than starting the Only Fans thing.


If your gf is willing to sell access to her body for money this to me seems like an issue. I am not sure where you are geographically but I am in a place where everything is open and shots are available. There are literally thousands of jobs open with babysitting being one of them. If you are so worried about Covid why even try to make money to go anywhere at this time?


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10 Jun 2021, 8:20 am

I am surprised that no one has yet asked for the link.


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10 Jun 2021, 9:35 am

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I am surprised that no one has yet asked for the link.


Maybe that's a sign that cheesecake isn't very interesting when the the depths of depravity are available for free.


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10 Jun 2021, 9:56 am

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PS - I think it would be foolish for her to do, personally, and I question her motives, but my opinion on the plan plays no part in this.



For easy money.


It's only easy money if you enjoy showing off your body to people you don't know. Most women I know would never be comfortable doing that even if they love their bodies.



Female Pornstars/Strippers exist, and they are plenty.

She happens to be one of those.


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10 Jun 2021, 10:46 am

One of my best friends is an ex stripper from Ireland, I think if you're deciding to do this you need to understand the risks involved, she does all this online stuff too. Weigh the pros and cons up yourself on a list then make a decision.

She says if you're gonna do it knowing the risks are the absolute most important thing, there are stalkers, scarily manipulative people, and complete psychotic dangerous people out there and always make sure there is nothing that can give away your location or any hint of who you are in the background of your pictures. If you're gonna get "personal" with one of the punters on there then make everything up, even a fake name, never actually tell them anything about your real life.

I'm told from her the younger or younger looking you are in the sex industry the more dangerous it is which is all kinds of sick.

If you want to protect your self-image to get a normal job on the side then don't ever show it off that you have an OF, just be very humble and don't brag about anything to anyone because people who you think are your friends get VERY jealous very quickly and will do anything to sabotage you. She said never tell family or friends, keep it to yourself and there's a whole reason strippers used to say they were an accountant lol.

Also never meet anyone from these websites no matter how much they are offering or how good the deal seems because when she was working it was sadly very common to hear about sex trafficking and extortion/blackmail.

Don't go getting yourself kidnapped, and if you really must have to meet someone for escort services make sure there's a location tracker on you somewhere and about 2 or 3 people know where you are and can call the police immediately if somethings up.

You'll mostly just get a barrage of nob pics in your first few months though, but if you start getting recognized/followers start taking the risk stuff seriously.


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10 Jun 2021, 10:56 am

funeralxempire wrote:
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I am surprised that no one has yet asked for the link.
Maybe that's a sign that cheesecake isn't very interesting when the the depths of depravity are available for free.
On the Internet?  For free?


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10 Jun 2021, 11:00 am

That bit never gets old. :lol:


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10 Jun 2021, 3:45 pm

She told me a friend of hers made 20,000 last year on Only Fans... she thinks she will make the same just posting pictures of her in lingerie and not talking to men, or leaving her chat open.... to me I am very uncomfortable by this. I for one don’t want people seeing my girlfriends body, and 2. Worry about this attention she may get making her want to talk to these people. I trust her... but she’s had insecurity issues in the past and she may want to feed off of the attention. She told me to “marinate” on it, and let her know. I told her I would and that I’m not chicken.



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10 Jun 2021, 3:47 pm

I also want to add that we have been together for 6 years, 7 in October and that I want to propose to her in August. I don’t think I want my future wife’s almost nude photos on the internet... She says I have nothing to worry about and we can share the money she makes. I also want to add that she makes around 1,200 - 1,500 every two weeks. She just wants extra money..



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10 Jun 2021, 3:59 pm

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
DW_a_mom wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
DW_a_mom wrote:

PS - I think it would be foolish for her to do, personally, and I question her motives, but my opinion on the plan plays no part in this.



For easy money.


It's only easy money if you enjoy showing off your body to people you don't know. Most women I know would never be comfortable doing that even if they love their bodies.



Female Pornstars/Strippers exist, and they are plenty.

She happens to be one of those.


She’s not a pornstar/stripper.



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10 Jun 2021, 4:01 pm

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but when I said idk I was uncomfortable and would think about it she said, “well shouldn’t it be my decision?”. What do you all think about this...?


Female perspective here: she is correct that it is her decision. But it is also your decision if you want to have a partner who will do something knowing it makes you uncomfortable and upset. The fact that the decision is technically hers does not shield her from the consequences that decision might have on your relationship. You are not obligated to accept her choices, especially if she makes them after you have been honest about how those choices make you feel.

It isn't for you to allow is disallow, but it IS for you to be honest with her about how you feel, including how such a decision could burden your relationship going forward.

PS - I think it would be foolish for her to do, personally, and I question her motives, but my opinion on the plan plays no part in this.


Thank you for your input. I am a little more old school I guess because this kind of thing baffles me. When she told me I was immediately jealous when nothing had even happened yet, just thinking about it. I believe in working hard for money, and if people want to sell nude pictures for money do that, but don’t be my partner...

I think I just decided on my answer...



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10 Jun 2021, 4:03 pm

Lunella wrote:
One of my best friends is an ex stripper from Ireland, I think if you're deciding to do this you need to understand the risks involved, she does all this online stuff too. Weigh the pros and cons up yourself on a list then make a decision.

She says if you're gonna do it knowing the risks are the absolute most important thing, there are stalkers, scarily manipulative people, and complete psychotic dangerous people out there and always make sure there is nothing that can give away your location or any hint of who you are in the background of your pictures. If you're gonna get "personal" with one of the punters on there then make everything up, even a fake name, never actually tell them anything about your real life.

I'm told from her the younger or younger looking you are in the sex industry the more dangerous it is which is all kinds of sick.

If you want to protect your self-image to get a normal job on the side then don't ever show it off that you have an OF, just be very humble and don't brag about anything to anyone because people who you think are your friends get VERY jealous very quickly and will do anything to sabotage you. She said never tell family or friends, keep it to yourself and there's a whole reason strippers used to say they were an accountant lol.

Also never meet anyone from these websites no matter how much they are offering or how good the deal seems because when she was working it was sadly very common to hear about sex trafficking and extortion/blackmail.

Don't go getting yourself kidnapped, and if you really must have to meet someone for escort services make sure there's a location tracker on you somewhere and about 2 or 3 people know where you are and can call the police immediately if somethings up.

You'll mostly just get a barrage of nob pics in your first few months though, but if you start getting recognized/followers start taking the risk stuff seriously.


She states she would keep her chat closed and would not chat with anyone.. they’d simply be paying for her photos. I tried to tell her she wouldn’t make much money... but she said she would, which makes me think she may be doing more than that.. I believe I am going to tell her that I am very uncomfortable by it and my answer is no, I wouldn’t like her to.



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10 Jun 2021, 4:20 pm

Brainiac42 wrote:
Lunella wrote:
One of my best friends is an ex stripper from Ireland, I think if you're deciding to do this you need to understand the risks involved, she does all this online stuff too. Weigh the pros and cons up yourself on a list then make a decision.

She says if you're gonna do it knowing the risks are the absolute most important thing, there are stalkers, scarily manipulative people, and complete psychotic dangerous people out there and always make sure there is nothing that can give away your location or any hint of who you are in the background of your pictures. If you're gonna get "personal" with one of the punters on there then make everything up, even a fake name, never actually tell them anything about your real life.

I'm told from her the younger or younger looking you are in the sex industry the more dangerous it is which is all kinds of sick.

If you want to protect your self-image to get a normal job on the side then don't ever show it off that you have an OF, just be very humble and don't brag about anything to anyone because people who you think are your friends get VERY jealous very quickly and will do anything to sabotage you. She said never tell family or friends, keep it to yourself and there's a whole reason strippers used to say they were an accountant lol.

Also never meet anyone from these websites no matter how much they are offering or how good the deal seems because when she was working it was sadly very common to hear about sex trafficking and extortion/blackmail.

Don't go getting yourself kidnapped, and if you really must have to meet someone for escort services make sure there's a location tracker on you somewhere and about 2 or 3 people know where you are and can call the police immediately if somethings up.

You'll mostly just get a barrage of nob pics in your first few months though, but if you start getting recognized/followers start taking the risk stuff seriously.


She states she would keep her chat closed and would not chat with anyone.. they’d simply be paying for her photos. I tried to tell her she wouldn’t make much money... but she said she would, which makes me think she may be doing more than that.. I believe I am going to tell her that I am very uncomfortable by it and my answer is no, I wouldn’t like her to.


I get the feeling she wants the attention and positive feedback that are likely to result. That said often when people get involved with that stuff they'll set boundaries before they've dipped their toe in, realize the real rewards only happen deeper along than those boundaries allow and slowly the boundaries are eroded whether in pursuit of money, dopamine or both.

That said, if she's the one is it still a dealbreaker? If the desire to do this exists it might not just be a brief idea to fancy, it might actually be something she wants to do.


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10 Jun 2021, 4:28 pm

funeralxempire wrote:
Brainiac42 wrote:
Lunella wrote:
One of my best friends is an ex stripper from Ireland, I think if you're deciding to do this you need to understand the risks involved, she does all this online stuff too. Weigh the pros and cons up yourself on a list then make a decision.

She says if you're gonna do it knowing the risks are the absolute most important thing, there are stalkers, scarily manipulative people, and complete psychotic dangerous people out there and always make sure there is nothing that can give away your location or any hint of who you are in the background of your pictures. If you're gonna get "personal" with one of the punters on there then make everything up, even a fake name, never actually tell them anything about your real life.

I'm told from her the younger or younger looking you are in the sex industry the more dangerous it is which is all kinds of sick.

If you want to protect your self-image to get a normal job on the side then don't ever show it off that you have an OF, just be very humble and don't brag about anything to anyone because people who you think are your friends get VERY jealous very quickly and will do anything to sabotage you. She said never tell family or friends, keep it to yourself and there's a whole reason strippers used to say they were an accountant lol.

Also never meet anyone from these websites no matter how much they are offering or how good the deal seems because when she was working it was sadly very common to hear about sex trafficking and extortion/blackmail.

Don't go getting yourself kidnapped, and if you really must have to meet someone for escort services make sure there's a location tracker on you somewhere and about 2 or 3 people know where you are and can call the police immediately if somethings up.

You'll mostly just get a barrage of nob pics in your first few months though, but if you start getting recognized/followers start taking the risk stuff seriously.


She states she would keep her chat closed and would not chat with anyone.. they’d simply be paying for her photos. I tried to tell her she wouldn’t make much money... but she said she would, which makes me think she may be doing more than that.. I believe I am going to tell her that I am very uncomfortable by it and my answer is no, I wouldn’t like her to.


I get the feeling she wants the attention and positive feedback that are likely to result. That said often when people get involved with that stuff they'll set boundaries before they've dipped their toe in, realize the real rewards only happen deeper along than those boundaries allow and slowly the boundaries are eroded whether in pursuit of money, dopamine or both.

That said, if she's the one is it still a dealbreaker? If the desire to do this exists it might not just be a brief idea to fancy, it might actually be something she wants to do.


I texted her while she is at work because I was obsessively thinking about it and I told her that it was a dealbreaker. I just can’t handle that I don’t think. Maybe that makes me insecure idk.



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10 Jun 2021, 4:51 pm

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I texted her while she is at work because I was obsessively thinking about it and I told her that it was a dealbreaker. I just can’t handle that I don’t think. Maybe that makes me insecure idk.


Whether it does or not, it's a valid insecurity and it's better to get it out in the open beforehand rather than after it's happened.


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