How do you get turned on a by a really goodlooking woman?

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I was also wondering, before I mentioned how this woman is a 10/10 in looks and absolutely gorgeous. However, she keeps talking about how she's always been told by her family that she was ugly and that she would never get guys. Her family was really bad to her for sure. I tell her I don't think that at all, and that I think she's very pretty, but I also feel careful not to be too complimentary, because a part of me is afraid that if she knew how hot she was, she might leave me, and search for better looking guys.

I like making her feel better about herself, but should I keep the compliments somewhat low on how goodlooking she is, in order so she doesn't think she is in a higher league than me, if that makes sense?

just love her for real. the rest follows.

Julia Roberts - a 7 for me
Bo Derek - a 7.5

No, you should not, that just sounds manipulative and dishonest. An attitude like that in my opinion is more likely to make her want to reconsider, than holding back compliments and seems it could be a slippery slope into playing mind games and worst case gas-lighting.

Just be genuine with her, that is probably the best course of action. If she has confidence issues you should be supportive not use that against her to keep her around. If you do that then you wouldn't be much better than her family.

Oh no I don't want to manipulate at all, it's just in past experience, women haven't liked it if the guy puts them on a pedestal either though, if that makes sense?

I don't think your intention is to manipulate, but if you were to hold back compliments you feel she deserves in a ploy to keep her confidence lower so she doesn't potentially leave that is what it would be.

You can avoid putting someone on a pedestal without being a damper on their confidence. That is what I mean about being genuine is be yourself and show her who you are, that is the only way she can determine if she wants to stay with you longer term.

You mentioned not having much past to talk about, but surely you have some form of past, you could say its been uneventful but still mention just some basic things like idk where you grew up, what things you've done for a living and stuff like that. And if you have any hobbies or activities you like or movies or shows you've seen that you like those are things you could talk about.

Oh okay thanks. I do mention those things, it's just she tells me I leave a lot out and that I am a mystery man she can't seem to get know as much about. So it feels like she is kind of prodding that way.

above all, be gently honest with her, always.

I dated a supermodel once.
It isn't all that it's cracked up to be.

if you don't mind, what was the not "cracked up to be" part?

If you aren't comfortable with the arrangement, break it off.
Simples.

Well, I have no respect for society's value system, and won't play the game.
I'm smarter than I look, btw.
Someone who is extremely attractive has certain expectations which I wasn't prepared to cater for.

She liked it when I put on a fake masculine voice, as an example.
Very much so.
Image was important to her.
Understandable, when you consider how superficial society is.

I am The Oracle of Truth.
What was I supposed to do?
Reject my vocation?

I wasn't prepared to adopt that sort of fakery.
Besides, she could do much better.
Personal integrity stuff.

She wasn't *really* a supermodel.
Just very attractive.
Out of my league.

pretty people never really attracted me. i could be mesmerized by their beauty but just the same i felt it was always a grand illusion, that there was nothing behind that beauty to back it up.

There are nice pretty people out there but society has a habit of corrupting a heart when all their life they get things given to them on a platter with no effort.

i would estimate that 90% of the pretty people i've come across, gave the other 10% a bad rep.

That's about right