How do you get turned on a by a really goodlooking woman?

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It seems like an odd illogical question but that is the dilemma I have with this woman I started seeing. I knew for a while now and really like her personality and she asked me out so and we started seeing each other, but even though I love her personality and we are a good match that way it seems, I fail to get aroused by her because she is too goodlooking. She is literally Hollywood, supermodel beautiful and that's the problem for me, sexually. She's too perfect, and I guess she just comes off having a phony supermodel face and body that I just can't relate too.

But my guy friends think I'm crazy I think and feel that I should be really turned on by someone that goodlooking. Can I chance my outlook on it, since I really like her personality, or what do you think?

Physiological attraction based on many factors like genetic compatibility and subtle indicator traits of phenotype, meaning health and ability to give you offspring.

These mechanisms are suppressed if you neglect physiological needs of your body: sunlight, physical activity, fresh air, healthy food.

If you are not covering these needs on regular basis it might be the answer.

If she is not covering some of these needs it might be the answer. If she is taking oral contraceptive it might suppress some of those mechanisms on her side.

It is also possible you are genuinely not attracted to her despite perceiving her as attractive rationally. I personally wouldn't force things against what my body has to say.

Oh well I think the chemistry with us is really good but the problem is me though. I am to use to burger and fries comfort type food, and I need to get into the fancy expensive, and exotic restaurant, if that's a bad analogy? But how do you get into that, when you are use to the other?

I can relate to this; I don't get turned on by "model types." I tend to get turned on by more "average"-looking women.

She is not your type.

Wantonly.

I'm more a burger and fries sort of guy than a filet mignon sort of guy.

Though I do like to dabble in "classy" things sometimes. I'm speaking more about the creative arts than I'm speaking about dating and women---just so I am not misunderstood.

^^ I'd imagine we'd all define 'a really good looking woman' differently.

Social psychology has said for a long time that people tend to marry partners who are roughly the same level as themselves, whether in the appearance department, social class, education, or other factors. So what you are experiencing is not too surprising. She's "out of your league" so you wisely can't feel secure in the relationship.

I've often heard that the world's most beautiful women tend to be lonely during their dating years, since all the guys are too afraid to ask them out. Are you afraid? That could well lead to not being that turned on.

Lucky you…..

Oh thanks, we'll see what happens.