I am so sorry to hear of your challenges, and understand that facing them leaves you in a difficult position. But … I wish you wouldn’t decide for your fiancé what she should or should not deal with. No matter how many times you tell yourself you are protecting her, you are actually giving into selfish pride, a male tendency that women find utterly infuriating. You should let her choose. You owe her that; she will be devastated when she eventually finds out and realizes you cut her out to go it alone. Many women find purpose and meaning in being able to be there through the worst of times for someone they care about. Let her choose. IMHO
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Mom to an amazing young adult AS son, plus an also amazing non-AS daughter. Most likely part of the "Broader Autism Phenotype" (some traits).
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