hurtloam wrote:
Confidence is very attractive.
I am so tired of people pushing confidence as if it's something I can just buy a bucketload of from Wal-Mart. Confidence does not just magically manifest out of nowhere! It is something that gets developed over time as a result of experiencing success. Someone who has experienced nothing but failure and humiliation their entire life cannot just choose to magically have confidence out of nowhere. Telling someone "you just need to have confidence" is like telling poor people "you just need to have money" or telling homeless people "you just need to buy a house." Gee, you think?!
hurtloam wrote:
He actually talked to the women and treated them like people. He didn't flirt, he would just talk about interesting stuff and organised things to do as a group like going to concerts or the cinema. He was quiet, but sociable. He took an interest.
This is how I've always interacted with women I've found interesting. And women often like me and enjoy my company. But in the end, they always insist they like me only as a friend. So clearly women are attracted to this man for other reasons.