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05 Jul 2021, 10:07 pm

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You say you have a TESOL certificate, so there is no practical barrier to you leaving the country.

English is the most widely spoken 2nd language, so it is possible to get by and meet people with just that. But once you settle on a destination, it would be a good idea to learn at least a little of the local language.

If you move to any reasonably developed country, your medications will probably be available there. I haven't had a problem.

I find it easier to live in another country than my own. People expect foreigners to be weird, so my weirdness isn't as much of a problem. (This includes romantic relationships.) And I've never felt at home, even at home, so I might as well be a misfit somewhere else.

I've lived in 5 foreign countries and visited many more. My suggestion for you would be East Asia (Japan, Taiwan, Thailand, Malaysia--not China) or East Europe. (They need English teachers. Western Europe is fine but opportunities for you would be limited. The Middle East pays well but it's not an easy place to live.)

As you said yourself, the only thing you need is the courage.


From what I've been told by multiple sources, Asia is particularly unhelpful when it comes to treatment and medication for psychiatric disorders. I've been warned that some meds are outright illegal in some countries and I could get in severe legal trouble for having them on my person upon arrival.

May I ask which countries you've lived in?



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06 Jul 2021, 1:19 am

In East Asia, I've lived off and on in Japan but mostly in Taiwan. As far as autism is concerned, it's at least as good as the US. No trouble seeing a doctor and getting medication for ADHD, depression, anxiety, etc. And it's all covered by national health insurance. Doctors here all speak English, some very fluently.

China, in contrast, is very far behind on this subject.


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06 Jul 2021, 6:41 am

I've always wanted to go to Japan. But I'm sure the reality there is different from what I expect. It is difficult to get a job there and the cost of living is high. All the jobs posted on Gaijinpot require applicants to already be in Japan.



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06 Jul 2021, 7:34 am

How about "dropping out" without emigrating? If you move off-grid, you'll get to work for yourself instead of the corrupt system. The people out at the fringes tend to respect each others' eccentricities.



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06 Jul 2021, 9:01 am

i live near those kind of people, they all have in common they are sharp as a tack, fit as a fiddle, ruggedly indestructible, with inexhaustible energy, and multi-skilled in all the important things. one doesn't get these things without having prepared all one's life beforehand.



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06 Jul 2021, 12:08 pm

My best friend spent his best years living on remote beaches. He had grown up on a farm, but learned how to handle a canoe on the ocean himself. He was joined by many other people in their 20s from various backgrounds. One drowned the first day, but most were able to pick up the skills needed in time. He still went to town to work from time to time to add variety to the diet.



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06 Jul 2021, 12:14 pm

and none of them has any mental illnesses or addlements or conditions such as autism. they are all NT as far as i can tell. or they could be on the spectrum but pass very well, the highest of high-functioning.



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06 Jul 2021, 12:19 pm

^^ The ones I've met all have major quirks that make it too hard to live anywhere else. One was a total kleptomaniac, so he lived where everyone would know to come visit him and pick up their stuff.



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06 Jul 2021, 12:20 pm

i should have added that i'd guess a majority of the ones i know have major sociopathic traits. just like the people i knew in the army.



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06 Jul 2021, 1:02 pm

What languages do you speak? It's not a bad idea to start thinking of what countries would be good for you from that ankle. If you speak none besides English, I'd recommend taking some language lessons on a language that interests you or, if you have no interest in languages in itself, in the language of an interesting country. You could also check blogs and YouTube videos from other Americans who've immigrated to other countries and find out what's good and what problems they face. It might give you some direction.

If you're worried if your meds are legal in the country or not, then I think that kind of thing can be checked from the country's embassy or some other official route, I'm not completely sure what though. Someone who travels a lot would probably know. Anyone?



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06 Jul 2021, 1:16 pm

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i should have added that i'd guess a majority of the ones i know have major sociopathic traits. just like the people i knew in the army.


I'd suggest more misanthropy than sociopathy. They form reasonably safe, stable, loose communities, and risk their own lives to save others.



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06 Jul 2021, 1:31 pm

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What languages do you speak? It's not a bad idea to start thinking of what countries would be good for you from that ankle. If you speak none besides English, I'd recommend taking some language lessons on a language that interests you or, if you have no interest in languages in itself, in the language of an interesting country. You could also check blogs and YouTube videos from other Americans who've immigrated to other countries and find out what's good and what problems they face. It might give you some direction.

If you're worried if your meds are legal in the country or not, then I think that kind of thing can be checked from the country's embassy or some other official route, I'm not completely sure what though. Someone who travels a lot would probably know. Anyone?


I know English and Arabic. But the Middle East isn't really somewhere I want to go.



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06 Jul 2021, 4:57 pm

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I know people who live in California. Don't know their income but they seem to be getting away with it. Not a very big house, rented, and they have jobs at Amazon.


I've known some people who had similar housing arrangements in the past. They always are in cliques and can only afford the rent by being in a group that splits the bills. To get into a group like that would require NT-level networking and social skills and an indeterminate amount of time spent getting to know the right people.


I lived in a share house situation for six years. Mostly Goths and Gamers. It made the rent very affordable. I never found out that I was on the spectrum until many years later, and one of the originals who set up that group has found out that he's spectrum more recently than did I.

As I look back on it, I think share housing can suit us very well. We each had our own room, common interests, but plenty of scope to stick to ourselves. Just need to be polite. We had basic rules and routines for bills and washing dishes. A shared common room, but mostly we pursued our own interests in our own rooms.

At one time there were six of us. Rent divided between six can be very affordable.


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06 Jul 2021, 5:17 pm

Problem is that I don't know anyone looking to make such an arrangement or know how to find it.



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06 Jul 2021, 7:19 pm

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dorkseid wrote:
ToughDiamond wrote:
I know people who live in California. Don't know their income but they seem to be getting away with it. Not a very big house, rented, and they have jobs at Amazon.


I've known some people who had similar housing arrangements in the past. They always are in cliques and can only afford the rent by being in a group that splits the bills. To get into a group like that would require NT-level networking and social skills and an indeterminate amount of time spent getting to know the right people.


I lived in a share house situation for six years. Mostly Goths and Gamers. It made the rent very affordable. I never found out that I was on the spectrum until many years later, and one of the originals who set up that group has found out that he's spectrum more recently than did I.

As I look back on it, I think share housing can suit us very well. We each had our own room, common interests, but plenty of scope to stick to ourselves. Just need to be polite. We had basic rules and routines for bills and washing dishes. A shared common room, but mostly we pursued our own interests in our own rooms.

At one time there were six of us. Rent divided between six can be very affordable.


That sounds nice. It's good with people who respect the basic rules.



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06 Jul 2021, 10:29 pm

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If you're not rich enough to live on the West Coast or in the Northeast, this is what to expect from your state:

1. "Fetal heartbeat" abortion bans. Abortions banned after 6 weeks, no exceptions for rape or incest.

2. Continued discrimination and vilification of LGBT people.

3. General trend toward theocracy.

4. Stifling and censorship of the arts.

5. Demand that schools not teach CRT, but teach creationism.

6. Voter suppression, resulting in a one-party (GOP) state. Democrats, indies, third parties and even moderate Republicans shut out of the political process.

7. Marijuana would remain illegal, in order to continue the War on Blacks--er, Drugs.

8. Any attempt to change any of the above is an attempt to "persecute" whites/men/straights/Christians.

9. Any attempt to regulate infrastructure would result in (insert state here) "becoming California".

10. Anything to the left of Marjorie Taylor-Greene is considered socialist or Marxist.


You sound more like a typical democrat to me (didn't you say you were registered as republican before? If that changed, pardon myself on that). Why can't I be skeptical of CRT and believe illegal and even some legal immigration in my country is to be questioned or has overstayed it's welcome, and supported Trump for my own reasons, while at the same time I have little issues about sexual content and nudity in video games or other media at all or is actually open to the idea of social programs and socialized healthcare (in moderation)?

Even if the only "wrong" issues were suggesting that immigration be restricted but were otherwise "good" everywhere else, I am still considered far-right even in America right now. There is no such thing as the "center" or "moderate" in reality because the parameters are always shifting. Did you also see the after mentioned positions as "far-right" 15 years ago?

On to another note with OP, I honestly don't know about details but the only thing I can tell you right now is that I wish you luck whatever you do.


I've never been registered with any party, and mostly support moderates/centrists from either party.


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