Do men dismiss feminism as bad too much?
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Yes I am saying that it makes them more sexually attractive. But doesn't that apply to now as well, and not just 1973?[/quote]
You don't seem to understand what I am saying. The purpose of feminism is not to make women more attractive to you. Reading your viewpoint is like travelling back in time.
To be fair, feminism by itself does not make women more "sexy"; but like I said previously, there is something about "liberated" women that does seem more generally attractive. Is it their confidence? Their optimism? Their ability and willingness to define themselves without reference to a relationship with a man?
There is some indefinable quality about "liberated" women that just makes them more pleasant to be around.
(In my own experience, of course.)
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Creates an "us" and therefore "them."
There are already too many divisions.
We are just people.
Even Lao Tzu knew this, 2500 years ago, writing in part:
Once the whole is divided, the parts need names.
There are already enough names.
One must know when to stop.
Knowing when to stop averts trouble.
Tao in the world is like a river flowing home to the sea.
Sounds conformist. Conflict within a society is always wrong, according to those who are already in charge of it and want to maintain their position.
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Yes I am saying that it makes them more sexually attractive. But doesn't that apply to now as well, and not just 1973?
You don't seem to understand what I am saying. The purpose of feminism is not to make women more attractive to you. Reading your viewpoint is like travelling back in time.[/quote]
Oh yes, I iknow that is not women being more attractive is not the purpose of feminism. I am just saying that it's still a nice bonus as a result, but when guys complain about feminism, they never want to acknowledge the bonus it seems.
Why does it have to be attractive to us males? nobody is disputing women are entitled to have a crack at any job a male does provided they perform the task better than other prospective candidates,
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Yes I am saying that it makes them more sexually attractive. But doesn't that apply to now as well, and not just 1973?
What they mean is the goal of feminism is not to make women more sexy, like that is not the point, if it does I suppose that is fine. But the whole thing is about equal rights and treatment. Women aren't always looking to seem sexy and shouldn't be expected to. But at the same time I don't think it is wrong if guys think the idea of women just being themselves is more sexy but that should not be the end all point. LIke you know sometimes women just want to talk about things with people without the focus being on how sexy or not sexy they look.
Like for an example there was a woman called Hedy Lamarr, she was like an inventive genius with a very smart mind, but she was also an actress. Guess what she got more fame for...? Like here mind was ignored and people just focused on 'oh she's a pretty actress in that movie' with totally disregarding other things she did. So I would not say it it is wrong to see women making their own choices being 'sexy' in a way, but at the same time it is important to recognize women want to be recognized for other things than just how sexy they are.
I mean what if you made some kind of accomplishment that you were proud of, and everyone just ignored that to talk about how you look....how do you think you would feel about that? Do you think that would be annoying to you?
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When I think of Feminisim I think of women that acknowledge that they are women and that they are different from men. Despite that they are still recognized by society as people and can still wear feminine clothes, do "girly" things, and be stay-at-home moms and do other things that are classified as "feminine" while still be taken seriously by the general populace.
Modern Feminism seems to take on the idea that everybody is equal regardless of gender and that either gender can do whatever they want regardless of the innate biological differences. Thing is, biologically men and women ARE different and in general men and women have different values, goals in life, likes and dislikes, and many other innate biological things that just makes men and women different and while you have those select few who defy these innate biological differences, most people do not.
That's my reason for dismissing Feminism.
• What good is Equal Opportunity education if someone only wants to take "easy" college courses?
• What good is Equal Opportunity employment if someone only wants to work in a fast-food restaurant?
• What good is Equal Opportunity housing if someone only wants to "marry into" someone else's home?
Equal Opportunity laws are worthless when the people they are intended to help do nothing to take advantage of those laws.
To be fair, feminism by itself does not make women more "sexy"; but like I said previously, there is something about "liberated" women that does seem more generally attractive. Is it their confidence? Their optimism? Their ability and willingness to define themselves without reference to a relationship with a man?
There is some indefinable quality about "liberated" women that just makes them more pleasant to be around.
(In my own experience, of course.)
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Depends on who is interested in you. Just because a partner is marrying up doesn't mean you have any control over the relationship, yet alone yourself.
I live in an area where many will stab their own mothers in the back for a pack of cigarettes. I'm also on the more well off side and autistic and boot. A lot who are interested in me are actually interested in the car or a house. Some dote on me and "love" me but their love only lasts as long as the car can roll or until they realise they won't get a house to live in.
It's extraordinary how quickly I develop stage four terminal cooties the second the car needs an oil change and is off the road. I've had plenty of women interested in me but I was still an incel many of the times despite seemingly being the one with all the aces up the sleeve.
Now women have to touch me before touching my "things".
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Yip or sometimes they provide you with a "teaser" first that they have no intention on continuing in the future.
If a woman I'm with has taken a sudden, self serving interest in my possessions then I subtly (or not so) drop the hint that it's probably about time for intimacy. If they still don't want to touch me with a barge pole then it's obvious they were never interested in me to begin with and the writing is on the wall.
Aspies need to be very cautious or such people because we are easier to manipulate. You can still have women chasing you and still be incel if you don't vet partners properly. Often flat out asking them for sex is often the more important vetting process for me if I suspect someone has taken a selfish turn.
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Yip or sometimes they provide you with a "teaser" first that they have no intention on continuing in the future.
If a woman I'm with has taken a sudden, self serving interest in my possessions then I subtly (or not so) drop the hint that it's probably about time for intimacy. If they still don't want to touch me with a barge pole then it's obvious they were never interested in me to begin with and the writing is on the wall.
Aspies need to be very cautious or such people because we are easier to manipulate. You can still have women chasing you and still be incel if you don't vet partners properly. Often flat out asking them for sex is often the more important vetting process for me if I suspect someone has taken a selfish turn.
There def seems to be a double standard where it is much more acceptable for women to get in relationship with guys who earn a lot more than them than it is for guys to get in relationships with women who earn a lot more than them. I believe that a major reason why is due to the traditional gender roles & some(or maybe lots) of guys wanting to keep women dependent on them so the guys can be the 1s in power & in control. Here in the US women are understandably very wary to get involved with guys earning less than them due to women generally getting paid less than men due to income inequality & lots of employers not offering paid family & medical leave. If a woman is forced to miss work due to things like pregnancy & childbirth, she likely will not get paid & can risk getting fired for being out too long. I was fired from my last job after being out two weeks for medical reasons due to company policy & I did NOT get any paid sick time for those two weeks I was out. I was full time scheduled for about 40 hours a week & I was even coming in on one of my two off days when I was allowed overtime, yet I was a lazy leach because I was only getting paid the federal minimum-wage & I was selfish enough to desire a romantic relationship due to loneliness when I could not afford to support a woman Two weeks is NOT enough time for a woman to miss work due to her being pregnant & giving birth & needing to spend some time with her newborn baby. This has traditionally been a man's world & this world is $hit, watch the news I bet things would be a lot better if women held a more equal amount of power as men do.
If a woman woulda offered me sex when I was single, I woulda suggested that we go on a date 1st. Spend some time together & get to know each other without the pressure of sex. If I woulda came into some money & a woman was interested in me for that reason, I still woulda gave her a chance. Companionship is aLOT better than being completely single & sleeping by myself every night. Serious romantic relationships can form for MANY different reasons. It may be physical attraction, common interests, personality, having a special skill or talent, chemistry or spark, having similar lifestyles, both being severely lonely & desperate, an arranged thing, a mail-order bride thing, political reasons, social reasons, economic reasons, & various other reasons that I have not listed. Any one reason can be just as valid as the other as long as it works for the couple. People can majorly change over time & the reasons a relationship was formed & based on originally may not last. But just because the original reasons the relationship started changed does NOT automatically mean that the couple must break up. Many relationships evolve into more deeper things as time goes on if both people involved are willing to invest some time & effort into their relationship & each other.
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Yip or sometimes they provide you with a "teaser" first that they have no intention on continuing in the future.
If a woman I'm with has taken a sudden, self serving interest in my possessions then I subtly (or not so) drop the hint that it's probably about time for intimacy. If they still don't want to touch me with a barge pole then it's obvious they were never interested in me to begin with and the writing is on the wall.
Aspies need to be very cautious or such people because we are easier to manipulate. You can still have women chasing you and still be incel if you don't vet partners properly. Often flat out asking them for sex is often the more important vetting process for me if I suspect someone has taken a selfish turn.
There def seems to be a double standard where it is much more acceptable for women to get in relationship with guys who earn a lot more than them than it is for guys to get in relationships with women who earn a lot more than them. I believe that a major reason why is due to the traditional gender roles & some(or maybe lots) of guys wanting to keep women dependent on them so the guys can be the 1s in power & in control. Here in the US women are understandably very wary to get involved with guys earning less than them due to women generally getting paid less than men due to income inequality & lots of employers not offering paid family & medical leave. If a woman is forced to miss work due to things like pregnancy & childbirth, she likely will not get paid & can risk getting fired for being out too long. I was fired from my last job after being out two weeks for medical reasons due to company policy & I did NOT get any paid sick time for those two weeks I was out. I was full time scheduled for about 40 hours a week & I was even coming in on one of my two off days when I was allowed overtime, yet I was a lazy leach because I was only getting paid the federal minimum-wage & I was selfish enough to desire a romantic relationship due to loneliness when I could not afford to support a woman Two weeks is NOT enough time for a woman to miss work due to her being pregnant & giving birth & needing to spend some time with her newborn baby. This has traditionally been a man's world & this world is $hit, watch the news I bet things would be a lot better if women held a more equal amount of power as men do.
If a woman woulda offered me sex when I was single, I woulda suggested that we go on a date 1st. Spend some time together & get to know each other without the pressure of sex. If I woulda came into some money & a woman was interested in me for that reason, I still woulda gave her a chance. Companionship is aLOT better than being completely single & sleeping by myself every night. Serious romantic relationships can form for MANY different reasons. It may be physical attraction, common interests, personality, having a special skill or talent, chemistry or spark, having similar lifestyles, both being severely lonely & desperate, an arranged thing, a mail-order bride thing, political reasons, social reasons, economic reasons, & various other reasons that I have not listed. Any one reason can be just as valid as the other as long as it works for the couple. People can majorly change over time & the reasons a relationship was formed & based on originally may not last. But just because the original reasons the relationship started changed does NOT automatically mean that the couple must break up. Many relationships evolve into more deeper things as time goes on if both people involved are willing to invest some time & effort into their relationship & each other.
Yeah. I can't help but feel misguided feminism will make these types of situations worse. There is a point where not taking crap from a man turns into exploitation of a man. Calling that type of behaviour out is sometimes construed as misogyny.
The usual stereotype of the man being the bread winner doesn't help if it goes hand in hand with a strong "independent" woman that modern feminism tries to make. Someone can't be independent but depend on someone else for all their needs. Strong or not, if someone has latched onto me for their basic needs then I make all the decisions.
I think modern day feminism needs to be reigned in and have more modest goals.
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