How to attract women despite you have Aspergers

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By their logic, if I have a choice between $200 worth of platinum and $200 worth of gold, and I take the gold, then I am "settling" for something of lesser value.

Huh?

Those women look like they are shallow and want physical attraction.

How can you tell all that from just one picture?


To me, they look like ten happy young women having a good time.

My first year at university, a female classmate said to me, "If you were a girl, everyone would call you an airhead."

I'd like to know where they live & the year that pic was taken before making any judgements.



I woulda responded saying something like "lots of women love the airheads candy so I should be very popular with the ladies"

Funny you mention that candy. I've long noted that my personality and that of the women I mostly find attractive can be summarized with two candies: Nerds and Airheads

What is an airhead? They have air in their heads?

I totally agree. Ever since my teens, it has always been self-evident to me that my most likely friends -- and my most likely more-than-friends -- would be fellow oddballs and nonconformists.

Develop traits that people find attractive:

Confidence
Kindness
Positivity
Resilience
Optimism
Curiosity

And if you tend towards traits that aren't attractive:

Low self-esteem
Meanness (intentional or unintentional)
Negativity
Pessimism
Closed-mindedness

then try to work out why you tend that way and do some work on yourself.

Everything else is superficial bs. Look around - you'll see literally millions of fat, skinny, ugly, poor, old, smelly, ignorant, lazy people who have all managed to find love (or at least a willing partner) in life. By all means work on your appearance and your 'eligibility', that'll help with confidence and resilience, but the people who will judge you solely by those criteria are not worth your effort.

Those girls in the picture look like the type that would turn their back on a guy who just says hi to them. My friend from High School was hanging out with me on the Fourth Of July this year. We were in the beer tent. Two girls with tank tops and jean shorts were getting drinks. My friend went over to say hi they said hi and then turned their backs on him. Before he went up to them, he was checking them out. I told him good taste, but out of our league. He still wanted to give it a try. I told him to go for it then.

A while later the girls were standing at a table. We walked over to sit down because the fireworks were going to start. I had a chair that I was going sit in that I brought with me. As we walked up to the table the girls went to the opposite side of the area.

Brats.

I agree. I do know people who look like that and they're very nice. I'm on good terms with them, but we are not close friends because we don't have a lot in common

Also the good thing about never dressing like that is that young people won't call me cheugy now. I'm actually cool lol.

This.

Resilience is a good one.

Go for women within your "league". The fat anti-social neckbeard probably isn't dating the 10/10 sorority girl.

This supports the theory that what is considered socially acceptable vs unacceptable is oftentimes determined by our overall feeling towards that said person.

Basically,

Hot guy talks to woman at a bar = flattering
Ugly guy talks to a woman at a bar = creepy


This is also why many attractive people are naturally more confident and extroverted (not always true but oftentimes true) It's because attractive people are less likely to be socially rejected because of their good looks, and as a result, naturally develop more confidence and better social skills. Being good looking also makes it easier to be seen as popular because good looking people have the halo effect on their side.



Of course, just because you're ugly doesn't mean you're completely screwed. There's plenty of average/ugly people who go on to get married and have a family.

Something that those people need to realize. You can’t rely on your looks to get you through life. It takes skills. Skills come back more easily than looks.

You've gotta be really good-looking to get by on just your looks.