Not just compliance with rules, but "caving in"?
Maybe.
For most of life I assumed that ...everything in the world is wrong with ME...and nothing is wrong with anyone else.
So if folks do things in an irrational way, or say seemingly illogical things, its my problem, and hafta shut up.
Late in life I have recently tried flipping the script. A lady supervisor I worked would say certain things that were illogical, and would set a bad example for the new fledgling employees. I would point that out to her, and she would just dismiss it.
After having this recurring debate over several months I finnally just asked her one simple question. Her response was to..look down in shame, stare off into space, with her eyes welling up with tears, and she repeated a certain same lame phrase several times. Basically she had a total breakdown and cried...just because she couldnt come up with an answer to my simple question.
The lesson?
I expected her to see the light, and say "by golly you're right. I was just having a temporary brain fart. What I keep saying in front of subordinates is illogical and most importantly ...it is an unproductive way to view the issue in question, and I shouldnt think or talk that way anymore. Thanks for the insight!"
Her breaking down and crying was NOT the outcome I was going for.
So ...I guess that I am still a socially inept aspie. Just a more assertive inept aspie now in my old age. I still cant get what I want from folks the way NTs seem to be able to. Oh well
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