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04 Oct 2021, 7:21 am

I think the crowd of people you hang around with needs to be reconsidered. It seems they're twice your age so it's no surprise the women who loiter with them are also old.

I'm also surprised how much of a wild one you seem to be yet how little luck you're having with women. Some of the social interactions you have will make my toes curl with anxiety and even I've had my fair share of in your face socialising from the worst of worst people to the most free spirited.

It's strange how you can down pint after pint with the occasional line of coke with your friends yet the vagina evades you. It's typically an activity partook by middle class wine lovers and young, boisterous individuals.....not someone down on their luck like you.



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04 Oct 2021, 7:24 am

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I had a mid aged woman take too much of an interest in me, when I said no, she tried lots of pressure tactics, but I put my foot down.

I was negotiating a project with a company, one of co-owners was a mid aged woman, after several meetings she gave me her card with her personal number written on the back and later arranged a lunch to discuss details and straight up offered me to sleep with her in exchange of position of the head of IT-department. I was expecting them to back out of our deal after I declined her offer, but it was approved anyway. But later I had to work with their newly appointed head of IT-department and I couldn't help it but wonder how he got this position :D



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04 Oct 2021, 7:27 am

Nades wrote:
I think the crowd of people you hang around with needs to be reconsidered. It seems they're twice your age so it's no surprise the women who loiter with them are also old.

I'm also surprised how much of a wild one you seem to be yet how little luck you're having with women. Some of the social interactions you have will make my toes curl with anxiety and even I've had my fair share of in your face socialising from the worst of worst people to the most free spirited.

It's strange how you can down pint after pint with the occasional line of coke with your friends yet the vagina evades you. It's typically an activity partook by middle class wine lovers and young, boisterous individuals.....not someone down on their luck like you.

I think this woman took him under her patronage or something. It is possible there is attraction with this dynamic, but probably it has nothing to do with it.



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04 Oct 2021, 7:38 am

For some reason, I doubt that James looks old.

There are many older women, especially those who hang out in bars, who "want" a young man.



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04 Oct 2021, 7:46 am

Nades wrote:
I think the crowd of people you hang around with needs to be reconsidered. It seems they're twice your age so it's no surprise the women who loiter with them are also old.

I'm also surprised how much of a wild one you seem to be yet how little luck you're having with women. Some of the social interactions you have will make my toes curl with anxiety and even I've had my fair share of in your face socialising from the worst of worst people to the most free spirited.

It's strange how you can down pint after pint with the occasional line of coke with your friends yet the vagina evades you. It's typically an activity partook by middle class wine lovers and young, boisterous individuals.....not someone down on their luck like you.



Yeah I don’t understand why I can’t get sex either? I am 5ft7 range and workout loads



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04 Oct 2021, 7:55 am

kraftiekortie wrote:
For some reason, I doubt that James looks old.

There are many older women, especially those who hang out in bars, who "want" a young man.



I've noticed that too. I've had a fair few older women being blunt with exactly what they want from me.



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04 Oct 2021, 7:58 am

I was at my local nightclub back in 2015 and this guy said to me “go and find a girl online because you don’t stand a chance”



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04 Oct 2021, 8:13 am

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I was at my local nightclub back in 2015 and this guy said to me “go and find a girl online because you don’t stand a chance”



That was a bit if a harsh thing to say. Perhaps you might give off a bit of an awkward personality.

Have you actually tried online dating too?



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04 Oct 2021, 8:19 am

Nades wrote:
Jamesy wrote:
I was at my local nightclub back in 2015 and this guy said to me “go and find a girl online because you don’t stand a chance”



That was a bit if a harsh thing to say. Perhaps you might give off a bit of an awkward personality.

Have you actually tried online dating too?



Not tried online dating because I am to shy.

The guy I mentioned also said me “you have got no personality”


The thing is though is that when I get drunk my personality improves a lot yet I still have no luck getting one night stands.



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04 Oct 2021, 9:45 am

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It's because old people find young people more good-looking.


What about women my own age though?

I am guessing women who are 30 don’t find me as attractive as older ladies do.


The ones about your age are not in the old category.



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04 Oct 2021, 4:08 pm

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The thing is though is that when I get drunk my personality improves a lot yet I still have no luck getting one night stands.
Lots of people think that their personality is better when they are drunk or on drugs when their personality is really much worse. I seen LOTS of vids of drunk guys doing moronic pigheaded things who act very full of themselves when interacting with others or coming on to women only to fail so miserably they end up on shows like Ridiculousness & Word's Dumbest Partiers :lmao: :wtg:


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04 Oct 2021, 8:01 pm

It's possible as aspies, we don't appear "able" to take care of others. Young woman want to be taken care of. Older women are now able to take care of themselves - they've learned how. The older gals just want company and some sex. They want to have a good time before its all over.



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05 Oct 2021, 7:01 am

Jamesy wrote:
Nades wrote:
Jamesy wrote:
I was at my local nightclub back in 2015 and this guy said to me “go and find a girl online because you don’t stand a chance”



That was a bit if a harsh thing to say. Perhaps you might give off a bit of an awkward personality.

Have you actually tried online dating too?



Not tried online dating because I am to shy.

The guy I mentioned also said me “you have got no personality”



The thing is though is that when I get drunk my personality improves a lot yet I still have no luck getting one night stands.


What do you find so nervous about online dating?



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05 Oct 2021, 8:37 am

Nades wrote:
Jamesy wrote:
Nades wrote:
Jamesy wrote:
I was at my local nightclub back in 2015 and this guy said to me “go and find a girl online because you don’t stand a chance”



That was a bit if a harsh thing to say. Perhaps you might give off a bit of an awkward personality.

Have you actually tried online dating too?



Not tried online dating because I am to shy.

The guy I mentioned also said me “you have got no personality”



The thing is though is that when I get drunk my personality improves a lot yet I still have no luck getting one night stands.


What do you find so nervous about online dating?



Getting rejected I guess



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17 Oct 2021, 11:15 am

You’re meant to approach women not women approach you...