Borderline Personality Disorder - nobody is talking about it

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3 signs you are dating someone with borderline personality disorder, according to an expert:

1. Disagreements turn into huge fights, followed by pleas for forgiveness.

2. They love someone or hate them, but there is no in-between.

3. They are always analyzing your expressions and actions.

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My daughter is 6 with suspected-BPD mum. She has daily emotional dys-regulation and experiences a lot of trauma from that.

Further, seeing how mum treats her, it feels like getting a front row seat to how BPDs are made.

I feel there's a good reason children so young aren't and shouldn't be clinically diagnosed BPD, Doctor Ramani did a good job addressing this in the analogous case of NPD.

However, we MUST get better at detecting and treating traits or genetic risk factors in children.

My daughter is young enough to especially benefit from early intervention. I am prepared to seek divorce and custody about two weeks from now. My daughter has a specialist clinical psychologist to address her needs.

I find the guidance in Raising Resilient Children with a Borderline or Narcissistic Parent to be particularly good on this subject as well.

I'm determined to get my daughter the help she needs, and try to keep her off that path.

I didn't know jack about BPD until I noticed the match for my wife's behaviors, after 9 years married.

Now I've had a crash course.

I can't remain in the relationship and stay healthy.

My kids need at least one parent who reliably provides consistency, safety, and unconditional love, and my ability to do that inside this marriage is compromised by my wife's behaviors, beliefs and reactions.

Anyway..

One thing I note from reading a lot of community stories from family members of people with BPD, is that autistics are dramatically overrepresented in terms of getting caught in a relationship with a person who displays BPD behaviors.

This really needs closer scrutiny in future.

Can someone clarify in two words what it means
Borderline Personality Disorder,
because I've read that too and didn't understand what it is.

With borderline personality disorder, you have an intense fear of abandonment or instability, and you may have difficulty tolerating being alone. Yet inappropriate anger, impulsiveness and frequent mood swings may push others away, even though you want to have loving and lasting relationships.

It's really hard to talk about for reasons already listed here by others.

My mother is a BPD and a narcissist. The damage that she has done to me has taken me the past 20+ years to forgive her for, I have forgiven her but I cannot be around her.

I lived in mortal fear of being diagnosed with BPD because I didn't want to be anything like my mother. And I was so relieved to know that I only had ASD.

This probably wasn't the response you were hoping for, but dear God. My mother is willing to do and say anything to completely destroy anyone who calls her on her BS. So, I just don't play anymore. She can practice on her four gray walls.

TRAUMA Drama