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28 Oct 2021, 10:09 pm

I been having ALOT of health problems, I have bone pain in my lower legs (it from when I broke my ankle over 3 years ago, my bones didn’t healed right) I can’t walk too good, I have a wheelchair, when I do walk, I get pretty bad anxiety & I can breathe too fast. I don’t think I should look for guys anymore on dating sites, I want to know if I’m doing the right thing, what do you guys think? If I’m talking to a guy, I cannot meet him, I don’t know when I can meet him. I mostly sit in my chair all day, I don’t think guys want that in women.



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28 Oct 2021, 10:31 pm

Just tell the guy the truth.

There’s nothing wrong with trying to meet guys.



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28 Oct 2021, 10:40 pm

Be upfront.



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30 Oct 2021, 12:59 am

I want a boyfriend, but I can’t meet him, I don’t know when I can meet him.



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30 Oct 2021, 7:42 am

Kitty4670 wrote:
I want a boyfriend, but I can’t meet him, I don’t know when I can meet him.


Why couldn't you meet him?



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02 Nov 2021, 2:17 am

Ettina wrote:
Kitty4670 wrote:
I want a boyfriend, but I can’t meet him, I don’t know when I can meet him.


Why couldn't you meet him?

I have alot of pain in my feet & lower legs, I can’t walk too good.



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05 Nov 2021, 6:44 pm

Tell him the truth! If he doesn't like it, then just forget about him.


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05 Nov 2021, 7:44 pm

Kitty4670 wrote:
Ettina wrote:
Kitty4670 wrote:
I want a boyfriend, but I can’t meet him, I don’t know when I can meet him.


Why couldn't you meet him?

I have alot of pain in my feet & lower legs, I can’t walk too good.


How is that interfering with meeting him? Just pick an activity that doesn't involve lots of walking.



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23 Nov 2021, 9:53 pm

Ettina wrote:
Kitty4670 wrote:
Ettina wrote:
Kitty4670 wrote:
I want a boyfriend, but I can’t meet him, I don’t know when I can meet him.


Why couldn't you meet him?

I have alot of pain in my feet & lower legs, I can’t walk too good.


How is that interfering with meeting him? Just pick an activity that doesn't involve lots of walking.



I have to walk still, I have pretty bad anxiety when walking.



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23 Nov 2021, 9:59 pm

kraftiekortie wrote:
Just tell the guy the truth.

There’s nothing wrong with trying to meet guys.



I do tell the guys I talked to, not all of them. Guys should respect women wishes, it’s not all about them. If I could walk more to meet them, I would be very scared cuz of the Covid.



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24 Nov 2021, 1:22 am

Sounds to me like you just don't want to meet anyone at the moment.

Dating will always be nerve-wracking, and there will be guys who don't want to meet someone struggling with health issues.

But there will also be guys who don't mind about that. Or perhaps aren't sure, but willing to meet up and say hello anyway.

If you really wanted to meet them, to see what happens, I think you'd be finding ways to make it possible.



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24 Nov 2021, 9:33 am

Kitty4670 wrote:
I been having ALOT of health problems, I have bone pain in my lower legs (it from when I broke my ankle over 3 years ago, my bones didn’t healed right) I can’t walk too good, I have a wheelchair, when I do walk, I get pretty bad anxiety & I can breathe too fast. I don’t think I should look for guys anymore on dating sites, I want to know if I’m doing the right thing, what do you guys think? If I’m talking to a guy, I cannot meet him, I don’t know when I can meet him. I mostly sit in my chair all day, I don’t think guys want that in women.


There are guys in your situation too. There are millions of lonely guys stay home a lot, who want to have a girlfriend, but are shy and don't have much of a social life so they don't know where to meet women. And there are guys with health problems too.

If you meet a guy who is attracted to you and likes your personality, they won't mind your health problems. It's trial and error though. The more people you meet, the more likely you are to find someone who loves you for who you are.

But if you don't go outside much, then the internet is the only option left. But it doesn't have to be just dating sites. You could try Facebook groups, online forums or other online communities/groups with people in your area. Or maybe online forums about your hobbies.



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08 Dec 2021, 1:00 am

Redd_Kross wrote:
Sounds to me like you just don't want to meet anyone at the moment.

Dating will always be nerve-wracking, and there will be guys who don't want to meet someone struggling with health issues.

But there will also be guys who don't mind about that. Or perhaps aren't sure, but willing to meet up and say hello anyway.

If you really wanted to meet them, to see what happens, I think you'd be finding ways to make it possible.



I do want to meet someone, I met a guy from a dating site many years ago, we met at my coffee place. When I had a boyfriend, we were planning on meeting, it was a really long distance relationship, we didn’t meet, we broke up, I’m still friends with him.

I cannot meet anyone,because it hard for me to walk, my bone in my ankle got pretty damaged, few years ago, I broke my ankle, my ankle healed, my bones didn’t healed right. It’s hurting toooo much. I was seeing a specialist for my foot, my referral expired, I wanted to go back to the doctor then Covid started.