Prefer to write or to talk with the mouth?

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Generally I'd rather write than talk, but when writing I'm mindful of the risk of saying things that might go down badly. With talking, the listener gets some chance of showing that what I'm saying is making them uncomfortable or that they're just not following it, so if I manage to pick up on that, I can back off or change what I'm saying to suit the reaction. Admittedly I'm not great at noticing body language and non-verbal cues etc., but with writing there's no chance of that at all.

I normally prefer to write/type over actually talking, but lately I've been finding it hard to communicate either way. I don't really know what I prefer now.

To 5555:
Yes I found people that communicate this way. It's more parallel, patterned, personal and visual than auditory-verbal, and feels richer. That's just a personal view tho.

My reason for being hikki is indeed Japanese, the shame and inability to accomplish things..

Text or speech, it doesn't really matter to me in terms of comprehension.

However, it does matter in utilization.

Speech is less linear, has access on tones and more complex expressions, also it is faster also out in the open.
However, it depends how reliable my auditory processing and short term memory. Mistakes are harder to undo.

Text is more linear. Drier. Also slower. But also more forgiving, has barriers against multiple interferences both internal and external.
I don't have to rely on how good my memory is -- I got screenshots and backlogs. Spelling can be searched or errors can be edited. One can unsent messages if given a choice.


Which do I prefer?
Depends how I want to express it. I'm not truly limited on how more or less forgiving the utilization of words itself.
I'd still dislike words itself whenever it's unreliable either ways.

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According to this article, writing does cause more trouble than spoken word. I don't know whether it's a good article or not, but some parts of it seemed plausible.

https://www.bbc.com/worklife/article/20 ... a-tailspin

This has actually been an issue for me since like 31.

I understand a lot of times people with malice or malicious intentions , are of course, going to type professional and type the right thing, then by actions or in person , the behavior does not match.

I feel like this is a private endorphin high and gratification for being “smart.”

Since that age, I have unfortunately more freely have text what I don’t necessarily mean at all, in a sarcastic way, maybe it’s my age and being fed up with others real world behavior.

So for me, that is something I need to work on, prior to 31 or so, you really wouldn’t catch me typing loosely sarcastically unprofessional to others (maybe like a significant other I would have typed anything to prior to.)

But this is actually a huge issue I’m facing.
Catch me in person, especially being tired, I’m usually very very timid. Catch me on text, and I got you. So I definitely need to just not loosely text unprofessional to others.

If you do, that will give more power to the person that’s doing “said behavior” in person, but their texting professionally the entire time and then thinking “they won” and their “smart.”