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Jamesy
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30 Oct 2021, 10:58 am

Do you ever feel some days your approachable but other days people dont want to talk to you?



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31 Oct 2021, 5:46 am

Yes. But I’ve noticed that it is entirely based on my self perception. If I’m feeling s**t, people generally don’t want to be near me, but if I’m feeling good, the world opens up a bit…



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31 Oct 2021, 9:12 am

No, precious lil "people" act like I am not approachable every single day

They might be justified. That is subjective



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31 Oct 2021, 9:15 am

The other way round.

Some days I want to talk to people, other days I really don't have the motivation.



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31 Oct 2021, 9:36 am

hurtloam wrote:
The other way round.

Some days I want to talk to people, other days I really don't have the motivation.


I'm like this.



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01 Nov 2021, 9:38 pm

This is where the "social fake" comes into play -- being able to show the world that you want to talk to people, even though you really don't. It's not an easy skill.



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01 Nov 2021, 9:51 pm

babybird wrote:
hurtloam wrote:
The other way round.

Some days I want to talk to people, other days I really don't have the motivation.


I'm like this.


I as well.


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