do you think most people are bad?

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I have had many bad experiences in all aspects of my life (family, friends, career) and am completely exhausted and really don't care to try anymore. I'm sure most of it is my aspergers but that got me thinking that if people were truly good then they'd understand my differences, but they don't. I have very few friends, rarely see my family and am constantly on edge about losing my job as a Veterinarian. I work really hard to do the best I can for my patients and I do just as good a job, if not better, than other colleagues. I don't work as quickly as others and sometimes don't realize that I am not communicating as well as I need to. I stay cognizant of these issues and try my best to address them but I am often criticized for these issues while other Veterinarians get away with subpar care. I came to the conclusion that people are basically bad and wanted to hear about other peoples' experiences.
I believe that how people are behaving during COVID (not getting vaccinated, not wearing masks) as well as the far right's assault on our democracy are all proof positive of how awful people really are. I am also an animal rights advocate and have been disheartened by the lack of improvement in the treatment of animals. Everything seems to revolve around what selfish/evil people want and everyone else be damned.
I'm sorry if I am being such a Debbie Downer but I have nowhere else to express my feelings and am experiencing a lot of anxiety by holding everything in.

I don't believe most people are bad but I believe it's easy for people to normalize toxic mindsets towards themselves, other people, animals, the environment, etc.

No. I don't. I think most people are probably decent enough. That doesn't mean I want to spend any time with them.

Family are uniquely able to upset us. I wouldn't lump them in with everyone else.

I do think that when groups of people come together, it creates something else. Something more than the sum of those people and that thing can be truly bad even if the individuals are not.

I think a lot of people are bad at being considerate of other people sometimes but I don't believe they are bad as in they would purposely wish you harm.

I do sometimes believe that no matter how much the world is made aware of diversity and no matter how well intentioned people are, they still don't get it.

No, I think we live in a tough society where people need to fight for basic needs and everyone is tired, stressed and and as result have a low tolerance for things outside the norm. They've already got 50 things to think about and now they need to remember this other person on their team doesn't follow the same pattern as the rest of the team. It's like giving them another ball to juggle.

Society needs to slow down. Everyone is at the end of their tether.

You sound like a great vet. What do you specialise in? Livestock, small pets or exotics?

bad no, damaged yes. the truly bad are the ones who wouldn't even go to a veternarian, or are the cause of animals being at a veternarian .

No, but I don't think most people are good, either. I think most are on the grey area in between and tend not to put great effort in to doing either good or bad.

Thank you for your replies. I practice small animal medicine. I am having a really hard time dealing with clients who are disrespectful and dealing with the population in general being very unkind. I guess I could say that most people are in that grey area but it sure feels like they are bad. I really can't take human behavior anymore and am very close to ending this misery.

Depression will distort your outlook. You sound depressed.

No. I think most people are apathetic in the “first world.” I am, to a certain extent. They wouldn’t harm anybody….but they might not help them, either.

In the Third World, though, people tend to be more charitable.

You have Bad Apples in both “worlds.”

Yes, most people are bad. That's why doing "bad" things always seems easier, more fun and rewarding, because humans were never meant to be "good" by caring about anyone but themselves.

Hugs newme ,,,, am very sorry to say but i can relate to some of your feelings .
hang on to your hope .. cause i dont think anyone else will

Yes, there are SOME people who can and will take advantage of you, and make such a mountain-sized deal out of even the littlest reasons.

Trust me. I know.

However, there are also a fair amount of good people around who are very understanding and willing to help, but I'll admit they are VERY hard to come by.

We live in a narcissistic/sociopathic society imo therefore toxic behaviour is more common than not, being on the autistic spectrum just makes you a target to these narcissistic con artists. Like NT's already find it hard enough to avoid them so when it comes to us we're like lost pretty much unless we learn as much psychology as possible I've come to realise. I could make a big essay about this but I think I'll leave it at the basics.

I do believe there are some truly good people out there but they are in the extreme minority. I'm just trying to deal with all the negativity abuse and stress that I feel from these people. I guess our survival Instinct programs us to be incredibly selfish and that's what we are seeing with such widespread bad behavior.

Unsatisfactory occupational conditions will distort your outlook. You sound misanthropic.