My friend was rejected from every social group in college!

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Jamesy
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16 Nov 2021, 7:03 am

When I was in college back in 2006-2008 I remember there was this one guy with aspergers who was rejected from every social group (including the group I was with).

Forgive me for stating the obvious but do you think that's a common experience for young people with high functioning autism,?



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16 Nov 2021, 7:07 am

You weren’t rejected….so that might not be as common as you think.



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16 Nov 2021, 7:12 am

kraftiekortie wrote:
You weren’t rejected….so that might not be as common as you think.


I am talking about the guy I knew in college not me



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16 Nov 2021, 7:14 am

My point is that having Aspergers does not preclude one from having social success.



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16 Nov 2021, 9:10 am

Jamesy wrote:
kraftiekortie wrote:
You weren’t rejected….so that might not be as common as you think.
I am talking about the guy I knew in college not me
The subject line of this thread is ambiguous, and therefore misleading.



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17 Nov 2021, 3:55 pm

I agree with Fnord as autism has nothing to do with being rejected from social groups. Though I don't know him, maybe he was doing things that other found to be inappropriate. He also could have been doing or saying things that went against rules of each group rules.



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17 Nov 2021, 4:20 pm

Summer_Twilight wrote:
... Though I don't know him, maybe he was doing things that other found to be inappropriate. He also could have been doing or saying things that went against rules of each group rules.
↑ This.

It is one's attitude and behavior that drive people away.  Nobody will even suspect autism until someone starts "acting autistic"; and even then, autism may not even be the first thing they suspect.

Most likely, the first (and only) thing suspected of an autistic man is that he is just being a jerk.



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19 Nov 2021, 3:24 pm

I got rejected from every social group in college, but not high school. But now I live and work in an upper middle class lifestyle. So who cares about that now :)