I think someone similar might be able to understand me better, and I might be able to understand them better too. Or at the very least, my natural ways of communicating and behaving might not cause so much instant ill-feeling.
If you're going down the "opposites attract" route hoping for some degree of balancing and compensation, it needs to give equal benefits on both sides.
Sadly in my experience most confident, cheerful, sociable, extroverted NTs don't have much to gain from insecure, gloomy, antisocial, introverted Aspies, except perhaps a heightened awareness of the vulnerability they create by being over-confident. But most people like that prefer to be over-confident, thanks very much, and to be fair to them it does seem to work.
I've dated a number of women who would be considered out of my league. And rightly so, as it turned out. Mainly because I was always massively insecure and jinxed those relationships from the outset, when in practice if I'd been less nervous of failure / abandonment they *might* have worked out ok (who knows?).
I've basically given up now, as I can't stand the whole possibility of finding someone nice and then basically making them increasingly miserable for 2 years.
Perhaps I wouldn't make a fellow Aspie miserable, but I don't often get to meet them, so IDK. Ironically, of the few opposite sex friendships I have, it's generally tomboy bi and lesbian girls I get on with the most. Because we have some shared interests (music, mechanical things, DIY, fashion, ethics, attitude) and there's also no pressure to mask or impress.