The only women my age I would be interested in

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Actually 20 something women have much more sexual energy and look prettier on all counts compared to 40+. No surprises that male celebrities find themselves in the company of much younger women

Where 40+ women single have the edge is experience, they are much better in bed. However 40+ married women and/or with kids and/or fulltime employment are too tired to have sex.

It goes the other way around too. An old Soviet female celebrity singer, Alla Pugacheva, is currently married to a young guy Maxim Galkin.

Going back to older men being with younger women, Putin divorced his same-age wife and then there were rumors that he might have been dating a much younger girl Alina Kabaeva -- although there isn't a lot of evidence for it, and he denies it.



Jesus said "whoever marries the woman who is divorced commits adultery". So divorced or with kids are both no-no for me for this reason. Which is all the more reason why I want someone younger. When I go to dating site and look for women in their 30-s (I never look for 40-s) a lot of them are divorced and/or with kids. And thats a Christian dating site, I don't know how Christians can overlook that they are going against the clear teaching of Jesus.

not that i have anything against people my own advanced age, but even if it were possible for me to meet even just one, the chances are overwhelming that they'd reject me due to my lack of experience, lack of mutual accomplishments in life, lack of wisdom, lack of $$$$$$$ IOW somebody my age normally has the advanced professional degree and multimillion buck porfolio and big social register entries, in terms of middle-class women - the working class women are just creeped out by me because i am neither fish nor fowl in their eyes ["uncanny valley" syndrome].

Are you saying meething someone younger is actually *easier*? Or are you saying it is even harder?

Are you currently in a relationship? Have you ever been? What are/were their ages and what are/were yours?

i am saying as you grow older and the pool of eligible women shrinks ever smaller, it only gets harder as you grow older to get anybody at all. and the ones that are left either have serious issues [which is why they are left] or they demand people of equal accomplishment and experience in life. i was with a person who had serious issues [very much like BPD] and it ended badly, she unceremoniously dumped me. i'm basically through with people and have been a hermit for a while now.

Was it the only woman you ever had, or have you had others?

Have you at least had kids with her or someone else? Actually, I hope you did. Because to me it is very important to get my genes passed. If you won't get your genes passed, they would all die with you.

my genes are basically history. no matter to me, they were nothing to write home to mother about, i would not want to pass on my troubles to yet another generation. mercy. also i would have made the world's worst dad, i have no business raising kids or even babysitting them, i can't do that worth a good goddamn either. kids don't like me, i creep them out just like i creep out women. i know i have a good heart but it just doesn't translate into our culture, i am in the wrong culture, the wrong country, the wrong planet. she was a former WP member, and she was the only woman i ever "had." she found me and saw something that resonated with her, and came and got me, like she literally fell out of the sky and landed in my lap, very literally- but by then i was in my mid-50s and i was already by my "sell-by date" by then, needed the little blue pill just to barely function in a tumescent manner, feeling was gone, i was too small [most women are sized down there to need a guy with 5+ inch girth and 6" of length to satisfy them vaginally (activating the "A" spot at the top of their vault) and i'm only about half of that. she couldn't even feel me and i couldn't feel her. i just don't have the genes for this world, so you see why it is no matter that they don't get passed on?

When do you plan to get a job which actually requires a Ph. D?

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I thought Wrongplanet members believe in neurodiversity. If so, then why would you say your genes are so bad? Maybe it is the society that is bad for not accepting them. Life has no meaning without self-worth. The measure of self-worth is your willingness to pass your own genes. So you should try and pass them.



That comes with practice. That is one of the purposes of life to try and learn things new and change. If you simply give up on everything, what is even the point of living then?



That only proves my point. If you are in a wrong culture, then the problem is not your genes but your culture. So you shouldn't let a judgemental culture to stop your wonderful genes from getting passed.

You can switch from American culture to European culture. It is easy to do now that online dating is available. Thats what I started doing on dating sites recently. Now if you try European culture for few years and even that doesn't work, then yes you might eventually switch race too. Better different race kids than no kids at all. But before you ever jump that far, have you seriously tried European women? If no, you should.

I guess as far as "different race" I am not doing that yet. But thats because I keep trying to find European women on dating sites. But if I were to ever reach the stage of totally giving up, I would start looking for other races before ever giving up completely.



Was she your age or was there an age difference? If age difference, by how much?



What does the expression "sell by date" mean?



What does "blue pill" mean?



Wow. I never think about relationships in these terms. Like I said I haven't had sex thats why I know nothing about this. I probably would be too small too, but that is the least of my worries.

You act as if its me who doesn't want a job, even though I already told you its them who don't want to hire me.

Alright, I guess with some jobs -- such as industry or community college -- its me who doesn't want it. But with other jobs, such as theoretical physics or mathemtics, its them who won't hire me.

So if you are asking about industry or community college, then never. I don't want it.

If you are asking about theoretical physics or mathematics, then its as soon as *they* will be willing to hire me. If they were to hire me 10 years ago, I would have happily taken it 10 years ago. I would much rather be a professor in theoretical physics than a TA.

Now, can I predict when they will be willing to hire me? I guess that depends on a different prediction: when will the journals publish my papers, since that is what stopping me from being a competitive candidate. I have 30 papers on arxiv.org, but arxiv.org doesn't count as publication. Most people send paper to arxiv.org and then also send it to official journal, and cross referene it when official journal publishes them. In my case, from official journals, I get rejetion after rejection. So only 5 of those 30 papers were published. And this is the number one reason I am a TA rather than a professor.

However the good news is that I found a journal that accepted 2 papers in a row, and I never sent anything to that particular journal before. So if other journals send me mostly rejections, while this journal sent 2 acceptances without rejections, that is a good sign I should try sending more of my papers to this journa. I plan to do this, and see what will happen.

It’s a crappy time to be looking for a job in academia. The ones that already have tenured or tenure track jobs are pulling the ladder up behind them. I expect you know that already. I hope you get your job but I also hope you aren’t bashing your head against a brick wall.

i TRIED, for decades now but only one woman "bit." we were both in our 50s and infertile. that ship has sailed, man.

"a guy's gotta know his limitations." i never have managed to get better [more adroitly social] with people of any age - hell, i have Prosopagnosia and also i have trouble recognizing people's voices, this has always been. that is not a recipe for being a proper parent, if you even forget what your kids look like!

my friend, you are forgetting that i basically can't communicate f2f with people worth beans. and i am too poor to travel. the european lady would have to be willing to travel all the way here to see me, fat chance of that happening.

she was a few years older than me.

meaning i am too old to cut the mustard, as it were. i am physically worn out, impotent, arthritic. can barely walk anymore. i'll be ready for the glue factory soon.

viagra, a vasodilator drug that makes erections happen [with a bit of stimulation]

if you are in a relationship somehow, it INSTANTLY becomes the greatest of your worries, you can take that from my own experience. women expect certain things from their mates, competent and spontaneously prompt sex relations is one. if you can't get it up, that is a #1 turnoff for many women. relatively few women are understanding in this respect.

If the issue is time, then I can wait by getting yet another ph.d. My first ph.d. was in Physics, my second one is in Math. My third would be in Philosophy. I will make them all physics-related. In case of Math, I can focus on mathematical physics. In case of philosophy, I can focus on philosophy of phyiscs.

Well, once I done with philosophy, I am not sure what other ph.d.-s to do. But I can always do postdocs, alternate between physics, math, and philosophy postdocs.

The other option I am considering is 4-year college. Unlike 2-year college, at least they put their research on their CV. So that is somewhat better. But still, in practice, most of their job is teaching rather than research, so I still don't like it. Now, I know that *all* professors teach. But the difference is that professors at research universities teach less than the ones at teaching colleges since at research universities they are trying to leave them some time to do research. And that is precisely the reason why I don't want to teach at the teaching colleges, cause I don't want the teaching to eat up most of my time.

Or instead I can look at third world countries and see if any of the research universities can hire me over there. As a matter of fact, I did my three postdocs in India, precisely because I couldn't get postdoc position anywhere else. I asked in India if I could be a professor there. They said no, because they require Indian citizenship. Now that is not the case in other countries. For example my thesis advisor for my first ph.d., who is a professor in America, doesn't have American citizenship: he is an Italian citizen. So maybe there is some third world country where one can also get a professorship without a citizenship. My secretary at the math department mentioned a certain country in Latin America which had institute looking for people to hire. But she mentioned it few years ago and I am not willing to just drop out of school to go there cause starting and not finishing a degree looks bad. But now that I am about to defend I can ask her again if either that university or some other one has openings.



What does the expression "pulling the ladder" mean?

Have you tried to?



I can't recognize most people's faces too, but I recognize all of my professors with whom I ever worked, and I surely recognize my mom (as well as the rest of my parents/grandparents when they were alive). So maybe if you will interact with people more, you will recognize them as well.



I forget how most people look like, yet I remember how my professors look like. So maybe you will remember how your kids look like for the same reason.



If one of you have to travel, might as well be her. I guess if she believes in gender roles she might be opposed to it. But thankfully a lot of people no longer believe in them. So if you meet one of the women who doesn't care about gender roles, she will travel.



I get contacted on dating sites by older women too. I just won't bite cause it doesn't worth it.



I still don't understand what does it have to do with "selling" and "dates". Can you explain the expression and where it comes from?



My ex-s were understanding about my not wanting sex at all. So if "no sex at all" is fine, then "not being able to get it up" is even more fine.

But in any case, as for me I "can" get it up. I was just saying my penis is short too. But it being short is not related to its ability to get up. Two different things.

I can't believe I am even talking about the stuff down there. I assume most people don't care unless they are really creepy.

They didn't just "confer a degree". I had to work for the degree.

I would be the first one to agree that the focus of education system is often misplaced: they ask me to memorize things I wouldn't need. But still they did make me work, for what its worth.



Most people who know me say that I am good in logic. This applies both to my mom and my former therapist. In fact they tend to say that my issue is "too much logic instead of emotions". Now I don't agree with this statement: I do have emotions, or else I won't be complaining. But what I would instead say is "I address my emotional issues by using logic". That, I would say, is more accurate.

On a sidenote, it's weird how someone called you out as shallow for having sex with a virgin, because there was a thread on here a while ago about how a guy was considering to stopping seeing a woman because she told him she was a virgin, and he felt that it was a red flag. I don't know if she he stopped seeing her not as a result.

But some reactions on here suggested that he was shallow for turning down a woman for being a virgin. Yet you got called shallow for having sex with a virgin. I guess people consider it shallow both ways?