Is it reasonable for a 31 year old to be banned fromcaffeine

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My mom also denied (gaslit me about) emotional and physical abuse. Crazy making. I hope you can get out and find the resources you need to survive and eventually thrive.

My dad said maybe he should start looking for my final resting place because he does not approve of my lifestyle.My dad said he is really close to kicking me out.I dont know why I just cant make them happy and they cant just let me live a normal life of an adult.They infantilize me constantly

It may not surprise you that I treat my young children (ages 8 and 10) better than your parents treat you. I helped my kids open up bank accounts by age 6. They are already learning to manage their money (my eldest tends to save more; my youngest tends to spend more --- they are practicing to find a good balance). Even if they made mistakes and go into debt I would continue to support them in "learning that lesson" and regaining financial independence. So sorry you have misguided and abusive parents.

To be fair and balanced, we’re only reading one side of the story. Yes, there are definitely some mistreatments by his parents/father going on, But, we also don’t know what his behaviours are like that may warrant having finances tightly controlled.

It’s difficult to assess the full picture when he makes several contradictory statements strewn across multiple threads. Claims in this thread to be virtually penniless with no access to disability funds and on the verge of homelessness for the umpteenth time, and in another thread to have a ~dozen different professions and investment wealth from trade stocks and other equities. Etc.

If his real life behaviour is as varied and erratic, it might be for the best that he doesn’t have direct access to money so that it isn’t squandered and someone who’s more responsible can assist with budgeting and spending to ensure he has the essentials to sustain himself.

Maybe. Like I said, we’re only reading one side of the story here.. and even if all 100% true, there’s still likely more and different truths from the other side of the situation.

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No for supporting trump. Because doing so is deplorable.

That occurred to me. A relative of mine was considered incapable of managing family finances after a head injury. He had little to no restraint. My son is super impulsive, so we'll see how it goes here. That's why I am started early! I had a great-great-great... aunt who behaved as if she was penniless and yet she was quite well off. When she passed, my great-great... grandmother (who repeatedly lent her "poor" sister money), sued the estate (on the grounds of her sister's mental instability, and lost).

Come to find out that spending money is a contributor to my anxiety and panic attacks. I didn't know I was having panic attacks - after all I can breath, they just "hurt". Also, I avoided them. I rarely shop and I typically don't spend over $40 (I have a partner to do so). So this month in an anxiety class, I have "discovered" that I have had panic attacks my entire life and probably would be considered agoraphobic. Me? I live big (relative to my challenges) so this is mind-blowing. I confused the anxiety/panic attacks with meltdowns. It's all a bunch of unbearableness. Bright lights, multiple demands, spending $100 ---- all awful. Working on knowing my limits and managing these differently now.

My parents were/are lousy with their finances, so I'd be in a really bad place if they had control. I was financially independent early in life and have been homeless twice, but thankfully not for long. I have also aided friends/neighbors who are temporarily homeless. People say "Give and take" but in my case it was "take then Give".

Wishing you well as you navigate the complex situation you are in.

Well my dad kicked me out and assaulted me because I was wanting to sleep on the couch and I wanted caffeine.I have been trying to get him to stop touching me for a long time.I called the cops and my dad got charged with a class C misdeameanour.If I gets I kicked out again maybe Il just live with my billionaire friend and his family.

My dad now has a criminal record for violence.

Ironic that we're back to the subject of the thread (caffeine -as catalyst). So sorry for the abuse. I'm glad you called the police; it's also scary. I wish, pray, sending vibes to you for a good long-term outcome.