Losing virginity

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Will it , or could it be a night of passion ?

There is lots of sex , early in a relationship ?

It depends….you never know.

At 43, it would be more like a night of extreme awkwardness. But good luck to you!

Don't just get right into the sex. Do lots of hugging, cuddling, kissing, too.....

In order for sex to be successful, she has to be turned-on enough to easily admit you. Especially if she, too, is a virgin.

Quickest I boned from meeting for the first time to sex was about 60 seconds. Longest was about 15 years after meeting.

There is a lot variation with when people are ready it seems. Some are extremely timid and others are already naked the moment you meet them. An entire night of passion on the other hand I have no idea. Chances are you'll last 15 seconds or not cum at all your first time. Both will put a downer on the passion.

It depends on the person you meet. Your first partner could be a casual hookup, or a long-term relationship, or something in between; there's no fixed rule.

Keep in mind your first time may be disappointing. It takes practice to be good at sex. And it takes time for two people to learn about each others needs and preferences.

It could also be an escort. That's who took my virginity. And it was certainly NOT disappointing! She did her job swimmingly, and even gave me a pep talk, after I told her I was a virgin---emphasis on "was" ---before I came to see her. I couldn't stop smiling for days. Heck, I was totally nonfunctional at work the Monday after. My best friend practically rushed over to meet me at a bar for a beer next day, and good god, did I talk his ear off!

I thought, when I lost my virginity, that I would be euphoric, and my mind would be "skyrockets."

In point of fact, losing my virginity did nothing to mature me, legitimize me, or put me in "another plane," somehow." Additionally, the actual sex was sort of an anticlimax, probably because of the inexperience of both of us.

In my mind, I realized that "losing my virginity" was not a "be-all, end-all." And that it was not worth all the fuss.

That makes one of us. Me losing my virginity made a HUGE difference. I felt like a real man for the first time since puberty, although having my first kiss came pretty close. I felt more relaxed around women. I became more self-assured. And most importantly, I started appreciating "little things" a whole lot more; by that I mean, hugging, holding hands, flirty dancing, and playing with a woman's hair. (As a virgin, I found them to be a tease, rather than a pleasure.)

Now, I lied to the escort and told her I had sex "a year ago"; I feared she'd deny me sex due to not wanting to be a client's first. And I wouldn't have any recourse, since my money was "technically" for her time. But I think she knew who she was dealing with the minute I walked into her hotel room. While we snuggled in the nude after sex, she gave me a good pep talk, telling me I made the right decision to see her, and that I shouldn't feel ashamed for it at all.

Today, I got the whole thing down to a science. I confidently walk past a group of cops on foot patrol, as I walk from the train station to the escort's hotel, with no traces of fear of them suspecting me. I utter a terse "hello" to the front desk clerk inside. Then I boldly walk into her room, hug her as a greeting, pay her, and start putting the moves on her. All throughout, I use train stations and bus hubs to ensure the cops don't impound my car, in case they do arrest me.