I signed a Consensual Relationship Agreement, but...

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Well she is a supervisor but is that practically the same thing as a manager in this case?

Oh okay. How come they had me sign an agreement but not her though?

Because you’re the subordinate and she’s the supervisor.

Supervisors can exploit subordinates via sexual harassment. Not the other way around, usually.

They’re making sure you can’t sue for sexual harassment.

Yes, a “double standard.”

Oh okay I see. But wouldn't a company also worry about a supervisor dating a subordinate and feel that she could possibly cause problems on her end too, being a supervisor? Or is this not possible, and supervisors can date subordinates, and be 'problemless with it', because they are supervisors?

That’s the whole point. The supervisor could be accused of exploitation of the subordinate through sexual harassment.

But I believe you signing this gets you both off the hook.

My impression is its to cover all parties, I would still ask why your g/f wasn't required to sign.

Oh okay. Well now there has been a new development and my bosses are acting different in this way, since I signed this now.

My boss has been asking my gf if I would be okay switching this shift, working these extra hours, etc, and then gets her to ask me instead of asking me directly. But why? Why does he keep doing this instead of just asking me directly to my face?

I think the reason might be is because he thinks that she is more likely to say yes to his requests on my behalf than I am, but that is just a guess. But I told her that whenever he does this, for her to just refer him to me rather than answering for me, or asking me and then getting back to him.

But she seems to take this as defensive and seemed kind of insulted by this, as if she wanted to be a conduit between me and him. Now she seems insulted that I asked her stop being a conduit, if he tries to get her to be. Like for example, the boss wanted to know what I was doing on a certain day on a day off, and I told her to just lie to him about I am doing because I don't want him to know. She then said she isn't comfortable lying for me. And I'm thinking well, you offered to fufill his request on speaking on my behalf about me, so therefore you are putting yourself in the position of lying for me, instead of just referring him to me directly instead. But that's just an example, of how she may feel defensive about this.

But what do you think or am I just overthinking this whole thing maybe, and he doesn't have any alterior motives for not asking me directly and going through her instead?

It is a weird situation.

Your boss should be able to ask you himself about the extra shifts.

Another supervisor who supervises my department specifically.

His company seems to be run in rather a pell-mell fashion---organizational charts be damned!