Shouldn’t he have a bit more success?

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26 Nov 2021, 5:16 pm

I know this guy he is 29 years old and never had sex or a girlfriend in his entire life. I don’t think he’s on the spectrum and my mom described him as “nothing to look at”.

To me he seems more NT and he has his fair share of friends to and plus he has a job to.

Do you think it’s extremely unfair that such a nice guy like himself should never have had sex or a girlfriend given that many guys who are not handsome can hook up and get sex/relationships? In appearance he has been described as looking like Jack Osbourne.


Oh yeah and importantly he’s not a short man either at 6ft 1/2 so that’s a non issue....



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26 Nov 2021, 5:23 pm

Could be bad luck.....

It could depend upon how he relates to women.



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26 Nov 2021, 5:27 pm

kraftiekortie wrote:
Could be bad luck.....

It could depend upon how he relates to women.



His mother recently tried to hook him up with some girls at his sisters wedding. Let’s just say it did not go quite to plan. :oops:



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26 Nov 2021, 5:28 pm

Usually, when a mother tries to get a girl for her son, it doesn't work out too well.



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26 Nov 2021, 5:34 pm

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Usually, when a mother tries to get a girl for her son, it doesn't work out too well.



I do wonder maybe he is focusing to much on women who are out of his league and not taking what ever comes along hence is ‘bad luck’. But to be fair I have done that a lot as well and just will not settle for someone I am repulsed by. I’d rather stay single personally than compromise.

In terms of looks I am about a 5 out of 10 but I am sure many women are also 5’s will want to date guys who are 8 or 10s.



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27 Nov 2021, 1:33 am

There is not enough information here to go on. Some people who have lots of friendships are not quality friends. For example gang members & mobsters tend to have good social skills & LOTS of so-called friends but being in a romantic relationship with a gang member or mobster would be horrible for any decent person. Most of your friends James tend to be people you get drunk with at bars & if that is the case with this friendship, I would wonder if part of the reason he has problems getting women is because he's an alcoholic.


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27 Nov 2021, 11:18 am

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His mother recently tried to hook him up with some girls at his sisters wedding. Let’s just say it did not go quite to plan.
Then maybe he is only pretending to be interested in women.



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27 Nov 2021, 1:53 pm

Yeah, I was going to say. Maybe he isn't interested.



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27 Nov 2021, 11:18 pm

I mean, his mom trying to hook him almost sounds like a classic scenario for a male that doesn't like females.



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28 Nov 2021, 4:01 am

OutUponATreeBranch wrote:
I mean, his mom trying to hook him almost sounds like a classic scenario for a male that doesn't like females.



hes a shy guy



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28 Nov 2021, 5:06 am

Jamesy wrote:
I know this guy he is 29 years old and never had sex or a girlfriend in his entire life. I don’t think he’s on the spectrum .

Oh trust me, he’s on the spectrum







Either that or hes a serial killer, or gay, or a gay serial killer like John Wayne Gacy, or whatever. Many people go undiagnosed. He doesn't work part time as a clown at kids party does he? cause that would be bad news. Follow him and find if he drops off mysterious packages in the woods. There might be missing prostitutes in your area.


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28 Nov 2021, 10:30 am

OutUponATreeBranch wrote:
I mean, his mom trying to hook him almost sounds like a classic scenario for a male that doesn't like females.
My mom woulda tried setting me up if she knew any women around my age who were single & interested. I think mom did ask someone she worked with but she wasn't interested & we never met or anything. I was interested in women but getting a date was impossible for me. I did give off kinda a gay vibe sometimes & some of the women I tried asking out thought I was gay till that point :oops: It's one of the reasons I was majorly confused about my gender & sexual orientation in the past. Mom knew I was not gay because she stumbled across some of my porn when I was like 20 & then I had to switch the Comcast bill to my name & pay that every month.


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28 Nov 2021, 11:38 am

theprisoner wrote:
Jamesy wrote:
I know this guy he is 29 years old and never had sex or a girlfriend in his entire life. I don’t think he’s on the spectrum.
Oh trust me, he’s on the spectrum. Either that or hes a serial killer, or gay, or a gay serial killer like John Wayne Gacy, or whatever. Many people go undiagnosed. He doesn't work part time as a clown at kids party does he? cause that would be bad news. Follow him and find if he drops off mysterious packages in the woods. There might be missing prostitutes in your area.
:roll:

Or he is simply not interested in women.



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28 Nov 2021, 11:45 am

Ok you question my aut-dar ? Jamesy go find this dude, determine if he autistic or not. I say He's ASD Hetro. Fnord is saying hes NT gay. With conclusive proof. We can settle this. If you get arrested for stalking, or he turn out ot be a serial killer. We cannot liable for your untimely demise. It's up to you Jamesy. It's your mission if you choose to accept it. Don't let us down.


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28 Nov 2021, 11:48 am

No, I am saying he may not be interested in women.



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28 Nov 2021, 11:49 am

Fnord wrote:
No, I am saying he may not be interested in women.


So asexual...


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