I understand how you feel. Playing multiplayer games is a pain these days and you have to have nerves of steel to take the toxicity of them. This is usually in games such as MMOs, FPS, and MOBA(e.g.. League of Legends). Sadly as a girl(from what I've seen and read because I'm not a woman), it is MUCH harder to find a community that is first: Friendly and Cooperative and second: Doesn't have guys acting inappropriate towards you as if they never been around a girl/woman before.
If you don't mind me asking: What game was it that you were playing? If we knew maybe we could point you towards a good community or possibly a similar game to try instead.
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Autism is a disorder not a personality trait!
"God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change,
Courage to change the things I can,
and Wisdom to know the difference."