Welcome to WP! And, no matter what the diagnoses are, or are not, I hope you like it here.
I will mention that while I am definitely no expert, it is my understanding that there is overlap between the high-end of ADHD and the low-end of the Autism Spectrum. Apparently they share many characteristics. This caused confusion for my ADHD bride when I had my Adult Autism Assessment in 2019—she noticed that she had many of the Autism traits, too. I dissuaded her by pointing out two specific Autism traits she lacked: limited interests and adherence to routines.
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When diagnosed I bought champagne!
I finally knew why people were strange.