Do you believe in authenticity/being yourself?

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I believe most people are hard-wired to take advantage of perceived weakness. (Look at Pirates of Silicon Valley, the constant lying, manipulating, cheating, and taking advantage of that goes on in relationships ). So I can no longer be vulnerable or naively assume people won't stab your back the second it's advantageous to them. I try to treat everyone with respect and can't expect the same in return, so my "true self" is buried at times under self-defense mechanisms. Better to be a warrior in a garden than a gardener in a war.

Absolutely! Nothing else makes any sense! It does require work to make my definition of "being myself" fully correct and right; but that's fine and great. Better mine than anyone elses, or worse left danglingly undefined for others to mess with me sbout ! !

Yes.

I define it more about being aligned with one's highest of values, knowing one's priorities in life, and unlearning or letting go of influence that does not serve instead of just the baseline definition of being 'natural'.

We're not babies. We're not children.
And personality of all situations and timelines are not the end all, be all of a person's development or even identity.
We're not the same person or even the same body 7+ years ago.

There's also living in acceptance without stagnation or use it as some form of bypassing and coping mechanism.
And also being the best version of one's self in every living moment, instead of what ifs and should haves.


I know who I'm. What I'm. What I want... Everything is just interpretations, translations, conditions, or are impermanent or hoarded...

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Somewhere there has to be a line between polite and socially acceptable behavior and anarchy. I think having good manners and not deliberately offending others is probably a good thing. Going completely the other direction and being rude, obnoxious, running rampant to "do your own thing" regardless of situation or concurrent activities of others is not going to win the acceptance and confident interaction of others. On one had we "set ourselves free" boldly proclaiming our "true selves" and on the other we wonder why we are not able to connect with others, demanding acceptance and appreciation. If a person wears a scuba diving wet suit to a wedding reception they might be doing their own thing and being authentic, but they should probably not lament, or at least should seek other company in other places, if others look askance.

I believe in being myself when I can behave like an adult, but not if I'm feeling self-centered like a child.
My ex took the character she played for counselling, which was a total farce.

Lots of people take "be yourself" too literally. Being yourself doesn't mean do what you'd do at home. It just means don't push yourself too hard to be someone you're not. Just relax a little, if you're shy admit it, show that you're shy but still be friendly. Then people will see that you're shy and might come to you. If you cover up your shyness by trying to be the opposite, you may end up scaring people away or annoying them. So to be yourself means to relax and not try to put too much pressure on yourself. This also applies to a lot of neurotypicals too.

If I try to be "somebody else," people see right through me. I'm a terrible actor.

"Make yourself at home" actually means "learn the routine in this home, and fit into it."

I'm a strong believer of being myself. I wear a lot of pea green because I love that colour. I also enjoy having my hair a certain length.