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16 Dec 2021, 5:13 pm

Do you tend to overthink things? Let's ask it here.
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Yes, even more so since the pandemic started. But I try to tell myself that things may not be as bad as they seem.


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18 Dec 2021, 5:50 am

Yep. At the end of the day though, you should only worry about things that have a tangible possibility of happening.

Worrying about past arguments that might come back to haunt you in real life, or being anxious that 'something is going to happen' is fruitless.

You need to set a boundary in your mind & think logically to contain anxiety.

If you had an argument a decade ago, however intense - it doesn't even matter now. Just chill, play some video games, scroll on your phone, watch television or make a blanket fort.

Do whatever you feel comfortable with. Those people you compare yourself against have their own misery & struggles and ultimately will wither away from the Earth the same as you. There is really no need to worry about anything.


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18 Dec 2021, 5:56 am

All my life. But there's no such thing as overthinking. It's just everybody else is underthinking.


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18 Dec 2021, 6:01 am

Yes. I tend to overthink things to the point where I can’t get anything done. Note my signature. It’s been there about a year, since I came to realize how much it cripples my life.

I try to intercept the attempts and just DO. Usually doing something can break up the log jam. Worse comes to worse, I go to bed and read or take a nap.


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18 Dec 2021, 6:04 am

I overthink due to anxiety. I try to be prepared for any eventuality, of course I know that is not actually possible but all my life it has not kept me from trying. Fretting is my middle name, "what if" is one of my most often used phrases. I don't speak of these things to others, but my mind works at it almost nonstop. You are not alone. 70 years old here and still thinking about possible things than can go wrong and trying to prevent them in my mind.


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18 Dec 2021, 7:01 am

theprisoner wrote:
All my life. But there's no such thing as overthinking. It's just everybody else is underthinking.


I think overthinking is essential really, otherwise you can really get into trouble in this world for misunderstandings & you are sometimes at the mercy of social groups of various 'stripes' or beliefs & they might genuinely think they are working in the interest in protecting themselves, even if they are wrong about something specific.

I generally lead a reclusive lifestyle because several of the people I have come into contact have been damaging in some way. Not just people I have met off of the internet, but people I have met in real life.

I haven't found anyone who has accepted me for who I am, yet. Even my own family don't understand me. Everything is topsy turvy in my world - and I don't mean my perceptions, but other people's perceptions of me. It takes me a long time to convince anyone of anything I say, even when I tell them facts.

I remember at my old workplace, telling manager's what to do to improve sales based on my business degree & absolutely nobody listened to me and just saw me as the disabled guy for the longest time. Then I started being more bold and basically started demanding I be treated with respect & there was a constant, tense atmosphere with them.

Every time I did something that exceeded their expectations, they took it as a direct challenge to their self-esteem/ego. They were probably thinking - how dare a disabled person be as good as me at anything?

That's how NT's think.


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