Are hobbies the reason we are still single ?
I remember some comments about that woman from some people were like ''Oh, how pathetic'' and ''People need to grow up'' etc. I don't understand why some people are perceived to be weirdos if they still like stuff they loved as kids, or dress in fashion they liked when they were younger. I feel like I work amongst colleagues like that I mean my assistant manager is in his late 50s and likes comics and stuff and has never married and lives on his own and so does my supervisor who is nearly 50 and likes to dress up in and stuff and is not married.
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I think people who call other people’s hobbies, interests and how they choose to dress pathetic are the ones who are pathetic.
Was this woman in the news or something?
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Well back to hobbies. It's true that many aspies have unusual hobbies and if it's a hobby associated by the general public as being child like then yes, it could cause some issues.
Hobbies vary a lot for people with autism but it's important to remember that they need to be reigned in if it's a hobby like collecting baby dummies example.
There are some hobbies that need to be kept to oneself and not be made into a public spectacle. If I see an aspie walking down the street with a dummy in his mouth I'll probably walk the other way
I think people who call other people’s hobbies, interests and how they choose to dress pathetic are the ones who are pathetic.
Was this woman in the news or something?
She was being interviewed on a morning TV show discussing whether its good or not to still sleep with a teddy bear.
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Oh cool. But I' don't feel i should risk liver failure, just to feel at home in the social world. What's worse, autism or alcoholism? But yeah, that is true, booze = gregariousness, extroversion.It's always done that to me.
Gregariousness and puking. These are my hallmarks.
Become more superficial and similar to people. Then you can find your hubby or wifey. Stay together and resent each other. Consider the dreams lost. This will be your new hobby.
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Hobbies vary a lot for people with autism but it's important to remember that they need to be reigned in if it's a hobby like collecting baby dummies example.
There are some hobbies that need to be kept to oneself and not be made into a public spectacle. If I see an aspie walking down the street with a dummy in his mouth I'll probably walk the other way
If the people who do judge people were more open-minded and didn’t belittle people with childlike hobbies and interests, the world would be a better place. I play Neopets avidly and stopped playing my junior year in high school all because some people wanted me to “fit in”.
I’m so lucky my accounts didn’t get deleted due to inactivity. I’d rather be a 16 year old bringing a plushie to school than sneak “other things” in her backpack.
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“There’s a lesson that we learn
In the pages that we burn
It’s written in the ashes of the fire below”
-Down, The Birthday Massacre
Hobbies vary a lot for people with autism but it's important to remember that they need to be reigned in if it's a hobby like collecting baby dummies example.
There are some hobbies that need to be kept to oneself and not be made into a public spectacle. If I see an aspie walking down the street with a dummy in his mouth I'll probably walk the other way
If the people who do judge people were more open-minded and didn’t belittle people with childlike hobbies and interests, the world would be a better place. I play Neopets avidly and stopped playing my junior year in high school all because some people wanted me to “fit in”.
I’m so lucky my accounts didn’t get deleted due to inactivity. I’d rather be a 16 year old bringing a plushie to school than sneak “other things” in her backpack.
You have self-acceptance. This is all you will need in life.
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in my case the hobbies came about due to the existential vacuum caused by people rejecting me. since i have no social life, that opens up lots of time and energy for hobbies which takes away the sting of being in people's "creep zone" and also focuses the mind on positive constructive things.
An excuse. A coping mechanism to explain it away.
It is, but that's not why you're single. Chicken-or-egg: I think it's the other way around. Singularity comes first; bizarre fixations fill a vacuum of sorts.
This. Precisely. This. The "weirdness" doesn't cause social rejections. Rather, the weirdness arises in response to social isolation. Yes.
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Some of those things don't let go of you from the past all the same. Keeping you company when you're alone, just not in the way you want. Closure or no closure, it doesn't seem to matter to that anchor [or whatever metaphor one likes to describe those painful and dark things]. Such are the things some humans must carry.
I...form too strong connections, which can be a good or bad thing depending. Without that anchor, very good. With it, not so good.
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