Women messaged more on dating apps?

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05 Jan 2022, 2:28 pm

In general why do women get messaged a lot more on dating apps etc compared to men who don’t get as many messages?



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05 Jan 2022, 2:31 pm

Because more men than women use dating apps.



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05 Jan 2022, 2:34 pm

Fnord wrote:
Because more men than women use dating apps.



Why is that?



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05 Jan 2022, 2:37 pm

Jamesy wrote:
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Because more men than women use dating apps.
Why is that?
Because desperate men see no other way to connect with women.



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05 Jan 2022, 2:39 pm

Fnord wrote:
Jamesy wrote:
Fnord wrote:
Because more men than women use dating apps.
Why is that?
Because desperate men see no other way to connect with women.


True

Do people still do speed dating I wonder? Or is that of the past



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05 Jan 2022, 7:29 pm

Fnord wrote:
Jamesy wrote:
Fnord wrote:
Because more men than women use dating apps.
Why is that?
Because desperate men see no other way to connect with women.


Alas the curse of literally every one of my interests and jobs being highly male-dominated has not made it easy to ever meet women, let alone connect with them.



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05 Jan 2022, 8:26 pm

Every moderately attractive woman gets tons of messages.

Men can receive a decent number of messages if they can bring close to the entire package to the table. Even then very few of those will be cold calls from women and never from the most attractive women; you have to contact them first and if you catch their eye they will respond.

I used online dating sites off and on between my marriages, from age 44 to 53.
I learned much about how to successfully meet women online. Indeed I met my second wife online. She was the only woman I met for whom I broke my cardinal rule: don’t meet a woman from an online dating site until you have first spoken to her on the phone.



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05 Jan 2022, 8:31 pm

Jamesy wrote:
Fnord wrote:
Because more men than women use dating apps.

Why is that?

Because women are less likely to seek total strangers as potential partners, instead of looking for partners via whatever social scene they and their friends are already part of.

Main reason: physical safety. Women are at greater risk of violence from men than vice versa.


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06 Jan 2022, 2:39 am

You'll never get a (biological) woman as a (biological) man for a long-term relationship, unless you put on the table a lot more than they do, in most cases (not all cases).

But any man can get short-term hook-ups. Even an Autistic dude - if Autistic folk can socially mask appropriately & are willing to peck away at the targets of their affection.

Women want sex too, they just have higher standards then men most of the time. That's the truth. Plus, they are socially more intelligent than men and see more consequences to their actions a lot of the time.

You might get lucky with the proverbial 'village bicycle' type of woman. Nothing wrong with those women either. There are males who have proverbially 'been around the block' too.


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06 Jan 2022, 2:47 am

You have to put yourself out there and be willing to get knocked on your ass. It's really that simple.


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06 Jan 2022, 2:49 am

If you cannot deal with getting knocked back, then you are not fit to be in the dating arena in the first place - and you are responsible for your own sorry self if you find yourself unable to pick yourself back up off of the proverbial wrestling ring canvas.

I'm not saying this to be mean in any way. It's just the way dating works.

Men pay a higher price for not having a job in the dating arena and since capitalism is predominant in society - that's mainly the reason why men are at a disadvantage in dating.


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