My dad says I'm not allowed to have crushes

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So my dad says that I'm not allowed to have any crushes. I've had crushes on a lot of guys before, and will probably have more later. He says that I'll deviate from my studies. It's not impacting my grades and school. I still study and turn assignments on time. He also says that 16 is too young to have crushes. I know this isn't reasonable! It makes me not want to tell him anything! Not even about the current guy I like! What should I do?

That's not how brain chemistry works and he's being unreasonable. Your response is natural and his attitude encourages a less healthy and open relationship.

I'm not a dad but did stay at a Holiday Inn a couple years ago. If I was a dad and my 16yo daughter was telling me the details of her crushes, I'd be sitting on the porch with the shotgun and letting the crush know the boundaries.

I would think this is a difficult subject now that you are maturing. He needs to buckle up, be honest as it's unreasonable request, and be there for you. My guessing is maybe you could be a little more mature when discussing the details.

Hopefully, better advice will follow me.

Your dad was allowed to have crushes; he helped create you.

It’s not fair that you can’t enjoy having innocent crushes.

How can your father ban you from THOUGHTS, especially when they don’t lead to ACTIONS.

As funeralXempire said, having a crush isn't something you can control. What you do about it, like if you ask the guy out or not or follow him in social media or something, is, but that's another story.

I don't know what kind of upbringing your parents had, but could it be that they have a different idea than you of what it means to have a crush? Could it be that, for example, they think that having a crush on someone automatically means actively going out on dates or something similiar? Maybe you should try asking your dad how exactly does he think that having a crush will bother your studies and why does he think you're too young.

I don't know your situation but I feel your father thinks that since he supports you he can make these claims. If your father believes he raised you well he should have nothing to worry about. I would also hope your father realizes this type of behavior (and demands) is not conducive to having a long term relationship with his progeny.

Some of you need to read the lyrics to the song "Cleaning this Gun" by Rodney Adkins which goes directly into fathers ensuring that their daughter's dates know their place.