How to give other women that I'm not interested in their boy

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23 Jan 2022, 6:20 pm

Hi,
I often spend a lot of alone time out in public alone and for whatever reason I am giving a lot of women who are attached men the wrong idea vibes. For whatever reason, I am sending out signals that are causing these women to get jealous and start flirting with her mate right in front of though I am not interested in her mate. This happens even when I don't interact with the guy could you give me some hints on body language and other social cues that let them know that I'm not interested in significant other?



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23 Jan 2022, 6:46 pm

You may be doing nothing wrong at all.  Being an unescorted woman in the presence of married men is all it takes to make their wives feel uneasy about you and insecure about their husbands' fidelity.  You may be perceived as a "threat" just by being there.



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23 Jan 2022, 7:01 pm

Fnord wrote:
You may be doing nothing wrong at all.  Being an unescorted woman in the presence of married men is all it takes to make their wives feel uneasy about you and insecure about their husbands' fidelity.  You may be perceived as a "threat" just by being there.


You are SO right!! ! This happens to my daughter too. She tells me about it all the time. Even old ladies do this too. Even in the presence of a couple who are simply dating, an unescorted woman will cause insecurity. It is probably in our "monkey" biology. Some unescorted woman will chat up the man who is with another woman just for the laugh of it all. Observe it some time and watch the fireworks fly - they fly usually after the unescorted woman leaves.



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24 Jan 2022, 9:19 am

RightGalaxy wrote:
Fnord wrote:
You may be doing nothing wrong at all.  Being an unescorted woman in the presence of married men is all it takes to make their wives feel uneasy about you and insecure about their husbands' fidelity.  You may be perceived as a "threat" just by being there.
You are SO right!! ! This happens to my daughter too. She tells me about it all the time. Even old ladies do this too. Even in the presence of a couple who are simply dating, an unescorted woman will cause insecurity. It is probably in our "monkey" biology. Some unescorted woman will chat up the man who is with another woman just for the laugh of it all. Observe it some time and watch the fireworks fly - they fly usually after the unescorted woman leaves.
It works in the opposite direction, too.  Being an unescorted man in the presence of married women is all it takes to make their husbands feel uneasy about you and insecure about their wives' fidelity.  He may be perceived as a "threat" just by being there, and the other men will likely react to him the same way they do to any threat -- bragging, posturing, intimidating, threatening, and maybe even escalating to physical violence.



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24 Jan 2022, 5:41 pm

Fnord wrote:
RightGalaxy wrote:
Fnord wrote:
You may be doing nothing wrong at all.  Being an unescorted woman in the presence of married men is all it takes to make their wives feel uneasy about you and insecure about their husbands' fidelity.  You may be perceived as a "threat" just by being there.
You are SO right!! ! This happens to my daughter too. She tells me about it all the time. Even old ladies do this too. Even in the presence of a couple who are simply dating, an unescorted woman will cause insecurity. It is probably in our "monkey" biology. Some unescorted woman will chat up the man who is with another woman just for the laugh of it all. Observe it some time and watch the fireworks fly - they fly usually after the unescorted woman leaves.
It works in the opposite direction, too.  Being an unescorted man in the presence of married women is all it takes to make their husbands feel uneasy about you and insecure about their wives' fidelity.  He may be perceived as a "threat" just by being there, and the other men will likely react to him the same way they do to any threat -- bragging, posturing, intimidating, threatening, and maybe even escalating to physical violence.


This is very interesting, and explains some peculiar behavior. Thank you for expounding.


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24 Jan 2022, 5:46 pm

that1weirdgrrrl wrote:
Fnord wrote:
RightGalaxy wrote:
Fnord wrote:
You may be doing nothing wrong at all.  Being an unescorted woman in the presence of married men is all it takes to make their wives feel uneasy about you and insecure about their husbands' fidelity.  You may be perceived as a "threat" just by being there.
You are SO right!! ! This happens to my daughter too. She tells me about it all the time. Even old ladies do this too. Even in the presence of a couple who are simply dating, an unescorted woman will cause insecurity. It is probably in our "monkey" biology. Some unescorted woman will chat up the man who is with another woman just for the laugh of it all. Observe it some time and watch the fireworks fly -- they fly usually after the unescorted woman leaves.
It works in the opposite direction, too.  Being an unescorted man in the presence of married women is all it takes to make their husbands feel uneasy about you and insecure about their wives' fidelity.  He may be perceived as a "threat" just by being there, and the other men will likely react to him the same way they do to any threat -- bragging, posturing, intimidating, threatening, and maybe even escalating to physical violence.
This is very interesting, and explains some peculiar behavior. Thank you for expounding.
You are welcome.

The behavior is even more pronounced when the unescorted person is known to be recently divorced.



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26 Jan 2022, 12:13 pm

My gf does this too and she gets threatened sometimes by other women around, or ones just in my social circle, who I have no interest in, since I am committed to my gf, and nothing has happened to suggest that I will cheat or anything.



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27 Jan 2022, 2:07 pm

On Sunday, I rode the bus and I saw this newly wed couple who was sitting in front of me. They started flirting with each other in front of me which caused me to first of all send a text to my boyfriend, as we just started dating. After that, I told them "Congratulations, you make a lovely couple. I have a boyfriend too by the way." After they they left me alone.

Meanwhile, I met my boyfriend later that night at my place and we have a wonderful date night in. Yes, when we hold hands or snuggle I feel that electric wire.



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27 Jan 2022, 2:36 pm

Michael Jackson had this problem.


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27 Jan 2022, 3:03 pm

Yup, I've had that happen to me too and so have all my female friends. I don't think these couples realise how pathetic we find this insecurity. Especially because we are not interested.

One the other hand I knew my friend's husband had a little crush on me and she knew too. She found it amusing because she knew I wasn't interested in him. That's a secure woman. He got over it once he got to know me better.

Edit: I haven't really answered the question in the title. How did I give off the message I wasn't interested in him. I don't know. I didn't flirt with him. We all hung out with each other and over time it was obvious I wasn't interested.

I'm not sure how to convey this with people I've just met or with more insecure people.



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28 Jan 2022, 9:34 am

theprisoner wrote:
Michael Jackson had this problem.


Really tell me more?

Hurt Loam

Edited: I used to have this frenemy with someone who has always been very jealous and envious of me. She would to anything from throw a tantrum to putting on this really evil and sneaky smile and play with his hair right in front of me. The truth is, I was never interested in her husband, in fact, I don't like him.

Then one time when I lived with two roommates, one of my hateful roommates brought her boyfriend home. Whenever I would try and interact, she would go into her bedroom with him and slam the door in my face.



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28 Jan 2022, 9:37 am

Summer_Twilight wrote:
theprisoner wrote:
Michael Jackson had this problem.
Really tell me more?
Smart people would stay close to their children when Michael Jackson was around.



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28 Jan 2022, 11:16 am

That's comparing apple's and oranges



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12 Feb 2022, 10:30 am

I do think a lot of the times it is probably due to those women being insecure about single woman getting the attention of their man like others have said. But I suspect that some cases may be due to the women wanting to gloat & show off & rub it into the single women's faces. Like a way of establishing social hierarchy & bullying like "Haha I have a boyfriend & you don't" kinda high-school competition & teasing.


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