For Those Of You That Cant Find A Partner, Why?

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For those of you that struggle with finding a romantic partner, why do you think that is? What is preventing you from finding a partner that you want to date?

why?

Unrequited here for quite some time. My fault there. (No, I won't talk about it.)

I waited for 25 years and so I know what it’s like. I think part of the whole dating scene is helping people on the spectrum know how dating works in addition to maturity.

For me, it's a combination of different things.

Physically, i'm very short (5 ft 3) and not that heavy (115 pounds) so this is likely a deal-breaker for a sizeable chunk of women, since the majority of women in my country are bigger and taller than I am. Attractiveness wise, I'm probably a 4 or 5. I'm not the ugliest guy you've ever met but I certainly don't benefit from being good looking either.

Personality wise, I am quiet, introverted, don't take a lot of risks, and I don't take rejection very well so if I get rejected, it crushes my self esteem. Although my intelligence is normal, I have below average social skills and below average social intelligence. If the average social intelligence or SQ score is 100, then my score would probably be 80, a large part of that is due to my autism.



So in a nutshell, I am short and physically unremarkable without the needed personality or social intelligence to compensate for my physical disadvantages.

Nobody here has the same interests.

I am trying to relocate from Houston to Seattle (after being priced out of NYC and the SF Bay Area) for the primary purpose of meeting people with the same interests (animated sitcoms).

Also, because I am tired of hearing that all-too-common-in-Texas relationship-killing phrase: "I refuse to have sex until I am married"

Before my boyfriend and I started dating, some of the reasons why I could not find anyone. I am very outspoken, independent, self-determined, and I keep my hair short. I also don't go to any of the obvious places like meet ups that often. Rather, I have done what I feel like.

Idk, really. I don't have a hard time finding myself with a relationship, but I have a hard time maintaining one. I've been in about 6 relationships within the last year, and every single one lasted between a week or two. It's because, I think, around the 2 week mark there are a lot of serious things, and I get scared that the person will leave me based on my answer, so in reaction to this thought, I leave instead. It makes me look like a d**k, but I don't mean it. My last relationship, she really really needed me, she has PTSD from her Mom's ex beating her and stuff, and I just threw it all away for what, safe cover? She was my safety, as I was hers. It actually happened twice with her, two relationships, a month apart. I just need help, I guess, idk.

for me, 2 words explain it pretty well: "uncanny valley."