Was she lying?

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Back in college I confided to one of my college councillors that this girl who I had a crush on at the time was ignoring me. She then said “well she might not have those same feelings for you because she might fancy somebody else”. I then started talking to her about my looks being the problem and she said “well your not ugly then the councillor paused for a few seconds and said “your a nice looking young man”

Do you think she was lying to me about being nice looking?

Do you think she was lying?

I don't know how I'm supposed to answer this question because I don't know what you look like and I can't second guess what the intention or motivation of this person was.

In my experience, the vast majority of guys I've known who complain about their looks are decent-looking guys who struggle with dating for personality reasons rather than looks reasons.

You're probably okay-looking, James.

You just hang out in the wrong places.

Good looks are never enough, even for desperate, horny men.

There are other venues to be "social" other than bars.

A "pub for working-class people" is just like a "bar" in the US. I have nothing against them, per se. I used to go to a "bar" to play pool.

But as a place to "meet girls," it's a poor place for us Aspie/Autistics.

Do you have trivia games there---where you can win money if you answer the questions correctly?

Do they have darts?

Then it seems like an "Irish Bar" in the NYC sense.

There's a TV in these sorts of places, there's barstools, there's a "bar" where you sit and have drinks. There might be booths where you can eat food. There's a jukebox, maybe a couple of video games. And probably a pool table.

The floor might be clear, or there might be sawdust on the floor.