Why do people do this?

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Why do some people feel the need to point out facial features about a person that an individual is self consciousness about? Don't they realise its rude and unnecessary behaviour?

For example this one bloke at the pub who is part of my social group pointed out the other day that I had dark circle/eye bags under my eyes.

Maybe he is trying to destroy your confidence, he might not even know that himself.

There could be a lot of reasons

Not enough information to determine the answer

However some precious lil "people" act like every thought and emotion that goes through their heads are the latest greatest scientific invention.

Their motives could be positive negative or neither

It's OK if an NT does it but if an Aspie does it then they get a huge lecture about empathy and all that s**t.

Whether an NT or an autistic person does this, it's pretty stupid.

This is typical behavior for barflies.

Sometimes people are just blunt, especially drunk people. I don't have a great filter myself due to ASD and ADHD, and have had to learn to not just point out things like that, even though I'm not trying to be mean.

I'd just ignore it and carry on with the conversation.

I will never know, this isn't just limited to facial features either, they'll point out anything that stands out even if this is obviously a negative thing. The worst is when something induces a facial palsy episode with me and one side gets more droopy and I have less overall control of my expression and voice. They amount of times I've gotten rude comments and people were offended at my obvious condition is baffling. It's not every NT of course but I imagine it's those one's that live in a ironically very small world that never really faced too many problems in their entire life or seen anyone with a real disability before actually functioning in the wild. It's likely the case because those small town people are always the one's acting like this the most, I like to call it small town syndrome. Everyone is a freak but them of course, in fact they'll go to a different place and point out while in a place that isn't their own how weird the locals are, it really is like a disease.