What do you most regret?

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I grew up completely lost about my place in this world and how to navigate it. My first girlfriend was my first wife, before that I knew a girl who in hindsight was crazy about me but at the time I didn't see it and I messed that up.

But my biggest regret about growing up is that I didn't go to live music because I was scared to. My first band was Wham, my mum sent me with my sister. My second was AC/DC 7 years later and I honestly went assuming I was going to get killed. Nowadays, live music is one of my safe spaces, my therapist asks how I deal with the violence of a metal gig, but it's not violent to me. I get pushed around a lot but to me it feels like a big hug, my kind of people, bonding together over something we love. I've missed it terribly the last two years, although i've had a few gigs recently again

so what I wondered is, assuming we all had struggles growing up, what's the one thing we regret missing out on because we didn't know how to navigate it? Or is it just me?

My wedding. I didn't know I was Autistic, so didn't know to manage my sensory and anxiety issues. It went well enough, but I have huge regrets about how I **didn't** manage some obstacles. Of course my family didn't know either, so personally faulted me for my difficulties rather than helping. They say "no regrets" in life... so I plan to clear these up one day...

Not taking an offer up when it was there.

No real personal regrets. I did my best on the assumption that people would decide not to destroy the climate. My life is wasted so far, but I'm glad I tried to use my talents for good. I wish I'd learned about the difference between IQ and EQ much earlier, and that the Dunning-Kruger theory had come out much sooner.

I regret not befriending nice girls at school who showed interest in becoming friends with me, instead of sticking to the girls who didn't want me around. If I had made friends with the right girls I might have lived a normal teenage life without all the horrible social isolation. But each time a nice girl showed willing in being my friend, I backed away like I was scared to branch out, and I ran back to the (familiar) girls in my class who just pushed me away and excluded me. It was just immaturity. As an adult I'll befriend anyone who is nice, but back then I only wanted to be friends with those who were cool and popular. The nice girls who wanted to be friends with me weren't as cool or popular, but they probably would have been decent friends for me.
Sometimes it is important to make friends with the right people when you're a teenager, because your teenage years can haunt you for the rest of your life. When you have good memories to look back on during your teenage days, it can make you feel good.

Oh, what was the matter with me back then?! It's not like I didn't understand the signs of whether people liked me or not, it was just I didn't seem to want to branch out. I was just so foolish.

Closest I got is actually trying to drink that soya milk my sister likes to drink...

Not because it was spoiled or spiked.
I just really don't like it. Probably a moment I'd rather take back.


The rest are to do with not knowing/discovering/doing something sooner, yet could've been done and chose to at anytime and just did it much later anyways.

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Eating too much

Getting made redundant from too many slave plantations

Not transitioning earlier

Hanging out with homophobic precious lil "people"

Structural engineering, wrong school, wrong major



Destroying work history, unemployable

Voting third party in 2016.

Not majoring in computer science

Not going to a university right out of high school

So many things.

One that stands out is passing on being someone's plus one at the London 2012 Olympics closing ceremony and after party. I would have met so many of my favourite bands. Social anxiety kicked in.

After recently getting dumped after a 13 year relationship I have so many what if regrets that I don't even know for sure were the cause of the breakup.

Going through a passive "Nice Guy / White Knight" phase instead of being more assertive toward women.

Interesting question. It's hard to know my regrets as I have a lot. Regrets can be spliced and diced in so many ways. Long term, short term, within the family or our side the family, acute effects or chronic.

I honestly don't know what pick.