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doc savage
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15 May 2022, 6:35 am

for some years unfortunately I have acquired the reputation of crazy to tie even if there have been only some anger but I have never hurt anyone. only words, nothing else.

how can I t
can I take a path to at least make people forget these episodes of anger?



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15 May 2022, 7:55 am

It has been said, "it can take years to build a reputation, and seconds to lose it".

If the people you deal with frequently remember your outbursts, you might be able to make comments like;

"You may remember my anger issues, well I am trying to reign them in."
"This is something that would have made me angry before."
"I need to take a walk for a few minutes to manage potential anger."

If people can recognize your struggle, they can be sympathetic and may even try to help.



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15 May 2022, 8:13 am

Just try to come up with different, more mild words, and don’t shout.



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15 May 2022, 8:39 am

Try making new friends



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15 May 2022, 11:44 am

I like what timf said. You can't make people forget, but you might be able to convince them you have grown past that kind of thing.


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15 May 2022, 1:39 pm

I certainly don’t forget my bullying—but Ive taken some steps with an eye towards preventing bullying in the future.

By and large, with a few exceptions, Ive succeeded.



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15 May 2022, 9:23 pm

I suppose it might help to apologize, as long as you don't go and do it again. I don't know why people get so upset by words, but it's clear that they do. It seems to depend a lot on the local culture though. I've known some people insult each other quite viciously without it affecting their relationships. I've also known some people get mortified by a fairly trivial insensitive comment.