Friendships with the opposite sex

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I can't imagine staying in a relationship without honesty and trust like that.
I don't talk to my husband about all my internet friendships because he's genuinely uninterested (finds it boring)

We usually pass bits of information we think the other will be interested in. Sometimes stuff the other isn't interested in too

I often overshare in these areas.
My first boyfriend was annoyed at me talking about my relationship, with a male friend they knew each other.

It always seems to cause problems when talking to other men about my partner, sometimes from the partner, sometimes from the male friend. Especially when your environment is too conservative and sex segregation, this often brings trouble.
But my best female friend is not interested in my relationship.

I think I'm often overly obsessed and overanalytical about partner-related information, and so insecure about my analytical abilities for a individual that I want to seek other references.

I know, for me, that I don't like "talking about the relationship." I just like doing things with my girlfriend/wife.

Watch an Ingmar Bergman movie; you will see what I mean. I just can't sit around a table all day talking about "feelings." It's just annoying. I'd rather be out and about, doing things like going to ballgames, going to movies, or for a walk.

I rarely talk about the "relationship" itself. I prefer hard facts to personal feelings (I can't perceive them well). I just want to discuss certain information about the partner with someone I trust. It's more of a special interest.
Although I will try to avoid invading my partner's privacy when I'm sensible and only discuss public information.
And analyzing large amounts of public information at high density still sometimes seems like an invasion of privacy. (At some point I'm really going to do very deep information digging. Sometimes my partner doesn't resent my digging of his information and is willing to talk to me about it, which is really lucky. )

So I've always had a polyamorous tendency, although I don't seem to be able to handle it very well.

We typically don't discuss the relationship. Nor do I generally discuss that with friends. It's other bits of information we share.

It’s seems a lotta of people seem to be ? Not interested in discussing relationship aspects ? Mostly men it seems .
But have known several women whom seem to shy away from discussing it . Not sure I understand this . .?

Female friends who fit the stereotype often seem to share their relationships or talk about their boyfriends.
My college roommates (plural, yes, there are seven in our dorm ) openly gossip about any member's (potential) romance.

But I didn't form friendships with any stereotyped women. I just have some acquaintances like that.

And must men who were willing to listen to my endlessly nonsense about a guy I was interested in turned out to be, in the end, actually interested in me. This would make things rather tricky...and I'm at a loss for what to do. I have lost/hurt several people because of this.