Anyone less willing to marry the older they get?

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As the title says. Do you think forging your own life as you get older makes you less likely to want to start over again should you meet a partner?

For me, I'm growing less and less happy with any prospect of marriage the older I get. It made sense to me when I was younger but I've settled down now in my own way.

Last edited by Nades on 26 May 2022, 5:25 am, edited 1 time in total.

Marriage is a huge risk. I had a miserable one.

I think the primary factors for me are things other than just the getting older.
With declining health I just don't have the physical and emotional resources to process the stress of constantly being in living spaces with someone else & likewise for the stress of working through the personal differences which come with being two different independent beings.

The idea of marriage still appeals to me, but less so as I age. Like anyone, I’m kind of stuck in my ways. That said, I’m willing to change. I like to be by myself a lot and as I get older that is starting to make me think that I might be a little too selfish in that regard.

Last edited by KeepWaiting on 26 May 2022, 4:25 am, edited 2 times in total.

Marriage was *never* in my cards.
I am a smart skunk, after all.

QFT.

"Marriage" is simply a social construct and not a social imperative.

Yeah. The people I know who live happily together done so at a young age where there formative years and important milestones could be done together along with long term planning.

I know a few successful couples who bought a house together in their 30s while meeting each other a couple of years prior and they always clash. The houses is a big source of tension in its own right as it legally locks them together to an extent.

Once people get to a certain age and those formative years and milestones are over then some don't see the point of marriage, myself included.

I can't be bothered with it anymore. When I was a decade younger and still able to plan my life with someone else then yes but alas, I was single and had no choice but to plan my life alone so I did.

I wouldn't be happy at this later stage to have someone interested in marrying me when I already settled down.

Same. People need to respect the fact people change as they get older.

As I have said many times, I can barely look after myself emotionally without having to cope with another person.
If I had developed a significant other relationship, I would have preferred a situation where we lived independently in our own houses.
At this age, <sing> "I'm just a bachelor boy and that's the way I'll say."

"Marriage" is simply a manmade construct, after all, and was predominantly a vehicle for raising children.
Psst. I have never wanted children.

It's less enticing as I get older. Honestly, I don't think I ever wanted to in the first place. The idea just seemed nice.

I should never have gotten married----not because of my wife, but because of my views on independence.

I learned the hard way getting married at 22.

I'll never be in any relationship where the only way out is death or lawyers.

When you marry someone you are handing over or opening up your finances,mental health,living space,trust, and possibility of going through divorce court, with someone you've barely known for a year in some cases

I hate to be unromantic but it's true. ^

In legal terms, marriage is no more than a business contract.

I'm happily out of business.