Does this mean a girl wants to date you?

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14 Jun 2022, 5:04 pm

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23 Jun 2022, 4:14 pm

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:



The message is that you cant tell :? but I believe the example at the gym means your dreaming about a porn vid you saw :lol: That would never happen to most guys in real life


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23 Jun 2022, 4:33 pm

Jamesy wrote:
If a girl is friendly to you and asks what you do for a job does that mean she's interested in dating you?


It means she's a friendly girl having a conversation.

Contrary to popular belief, girls and women can be friendly without ulterior motives.



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23 Jun 2022, 5:08 pm

IsabellaLinton wrote:
Jamesy wrote:
If a girl is friendly to you and asks what you do for a job does that mean she's interested in dating you?


It means she's a friendly girl having a conversation.

Contrary to popular belief, girls and women can be friendly without ulterior motives.


While this is true, if the man is single/dateless then it plays with his mind.



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23 Jun 2022, 5:11 pm

I don't disagree, but then seriously .... are girls and women supposed to just act like b*****s with single men?

How do we know who the single men are, anyway? If we ask first, isn't that going to suggest we're interested?

What happens if a boy or man is friendly to another guy, and asks what they do for a job?

Does that mean the boy / man wants a date too?

Reason #92 why society sucks. ^



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23 Jun 2022, 5:16 pm

I think it sucks but for men we have trouble controlling out biological/hormonal urges. Single/dateless men should be able to compartmentalise these from being good decent human beings. But in reality it has a psychological impact.

For example sharing accommodation with a girl in a rental situation can open opportunities to meet her friends and network but if nothing happens then it's like putting "trained" caged lion in the same house as rabbits. The lion may be "trained" but he knows how delicious those rabbits are and has to fight his urges.



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23 Jun 2022, 5:25 pm

I never assumed that a girl being nice to me automatically meant that she was into me but I did sometimes start wondering if I'd might have a chance with her if she was single & more so if she talked to me about wanting a relationship or complained to me about the jerks she dated. Me making a move in those situations never got me a date thou & it sometimes ruined our friendship :( I did NOT become friends with them because I was hoping for more. I just started to like them a little & thought we might be compatible after being their friend.


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23 Jun 2022, 6:50 pm

nick007 wrote:
but I did sometimes start wondering if I'd might have a chance with her if she was single


This is the point I'm trying to get across. Attractive girls need to understand that a man who says they are "their friend" is constantly thinking "what if" almost all the time. You simply can't turn off that switch in your brain.

The men who succeed in having a platonic relationship with an attractive girl over time develop good acting skills but the dissonance doesn't go away. I've done this before in my life and it's about having to suppress your feelings.