I feel so drained when talking with a group of people

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Vasco
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01 Jul 2022, 4:52 am

Today, I mean yesterday since it's midnight,
I talked with some of my peers after my swimming class, and few people talked non-stop.
When the topic came to be about marching band, they did not let me speak about my experiences in marching band, nor did they ask what instrument I play.
I patiently waited for the current person to finish, and another person immediately interrupted me.
I prefer not to talk in groups of people. It's overwhelming.
I much prefer a structured virtual environment on Zoom, where people raise hands and use the chat instead of talking over each other trying to inflate their egos.



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01 Jul 2022, 4:48 pm

I miss the elementary school days when we had to raise our hands before we could speak. I feel like I talked much more in my childhood than I do now because I always knew the answers to the questions then, and now the only 'questions' I get now are about my life. Whenever I am talking in a group of people, I never know when I should or shouldn't speak. I feel like I am doing a side game of Tetris in my mind just trying to figure it out. After working my brain so hard, I also feel so very drained after talking with a group of people.
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04 Jul 2022, 4:46 pm

I don't like Zoom (prefer text-based chat). But, as far as in-person meetings are concerned, I much prefer a structured, focused conversation over random chit chat. It is very difficult for me to follow random chit chat in an in-person group of people.


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20 Jul 2022, 11:59 am

Vasco wrote:
Today, I mean yesterday since it's midnight,
I talked with some of my peers after my swimming class, and few people talked non-stop.
When the topic came to be about marching band, they did not let me speak about my experiences in marching band, nor did they ask what instrument I play.
I patiently waited for the current person to finish, and another person immediately interrupted me.
I prefer not to talk in groups of people. It's overwhelming.
I much prefer a structured virtual environment on Zoom, where people raise hands and use the chat instead of talking over each other trying to inflate their egos.


Regarding the person who interrupted you, I am sure it was not in purpose. Rather, they probably didn't pay attention to you talking and probably waited to speak too. However, you may want to interrupt back.

" Can I interrupt? I was looking at getting a word in edgewise