When Facebook groups don't accept you

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I have a problem with my neighbours but I don't want to keep repeatedly ranting about them on WP, so I searched for Facebook groups that are for people with bad neighbours so that I can get things off my chest and get sympathy and advice from other people who are in the same boat and are there to discuss it specifically. I found 2 different Facebook groups, that look very active and have lots and lots of members, and I requested to join the groups. But it's been weeks now and still no join group acceptance from either groups so I don't have anywhere I can talk about the thing that is making me most anxious in my life right now.

What's the point in having Facebook groups if there's no-one to administer them and accept new members? Both these groups have latest posts that were posted today. Why won't they accept me. Maybe they see me coming.

Maybe try again? Sometimes, there's so many "applicants" that they might not have gotten to your "application."

Just to say, I learned to avoid Facebook Groups, especially the private ones. They are chock full of bullies, because they are hidden away from public eye. And not being accepted is probably a sign that the groups aren't active anymore.

I prefer FB Pages as they are public therefore people have to behave politely.

Good luck with finding what you want. I wouldn't join a FB Group again due to bad experiences. e.g. I joined one for Highly Sensitive People, but had to leave because they were too argumentative!

I belong to a few private Facebook groups and I've never actually had any bullying going on. The mods are usually very good at acting quick whenever there's any sort of bullying going on.

Try starting your own.

Yes, sympathy and reassurance goes a long way when it comes to an emotional issue.

With a more logical issue, such as "I keep having a leak through my front door", advice is needed more.

I know that people who offer advice have a good heart and good intentions, but, well, you know.

Yes, some people offer advice from a good heart, but some just want to fire advice to shut us up, I've found.

Another thing that annoys me is that 99% of the time I'm calm and kind but if I have one bad day I'm dismissed and excluded. We're allowed to have a bad day.

But hey ho, we keep plodding on don't we

Yes, I know what you mean there.

Like during 2020 when covid was at its worst, and I was a key worker but living with a vulnerable person who was isolating (before we had vaccines or easy access to tests), and I was in a stress and a panic and felt there weren't much sympathy for people in that situation. So then I got a load of advice from different people, that it's possible to avoid each other in our small apartment by making sure we're in separate rooms at all times. OK, that may be possible to live like that for a few days, but for months, not possible. The only realistic answer to that was to furlough key workers if they're living under the same roof as an isolating vulnerable person. But that didn't seem to be an option. So I stressed. Thankfully we lived through it all in one piece.