How do/would parents feel about a "perfect" child?
I wouldn't enjoy the "perfect child" you described.
The unquestioning obedience is something that my dog shows, and while it's useful sometimes, it also gives me anxiety because I know if I mistakenly tell her to harm herself, she will. (For example, she sat on a thistle once because I told her to sit and hadn't noticed it underneath her.) I'd rather a child who I know will put up a fight in their own self-defense, because then I'll have a clear signal of when I've unintentionally given a harmful command.
I also want a child who will encourage me to think and learn and grow as a person, and that means they need to be difficult sometimes, because they need to think for themselves and that inevitably means thinking up things I don't want at times.
My own baby is fairly easy as far as 2 month olds go (that is to say, she's a bottomless pit of need that's exhausting to look after, but she's generally cheerful when she doesn't actively need something, and she sleeps well at night). But so far, she's a lot closer to my ideal dream child than the child you described.
LMAO - Sounds exactly like my 25 yo daughter.
Congrats on the birth, Ettina!
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And in the end, the love you take is equal to the love you make.
Second, some parents have kids because of a narcissistic desire to have a weaker creature to boss around and raise their social status, rather than because of a genuine wish to give love to a new person. In which case, those parents are better off buying a dog or sticking to "doing other things", rather than conceiving a new child.
I think a lot of people have kids because it's just the next thing you do once you've been through school, got a job, got married, travelled a bit etc. It's just what's expected and many never question it. That some parents turn out to be narcissists is inevitable but I doubt many people have a child for the express purpose of having someone to boss around. There's plenty of submissive people around they can find to do that to.
To answer the original question, I think I'd accept a perfect child as much as I accept an imperfect one, which is what I have (obviously). I'd worry about the so-called perfect behaviours as much as I worry about mine's imperfect behaviours.
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And they told me there'd be people there, whose love could make me whole. But I walked among them yesterday, and never saw a soul.
By contrast, when I had to be rushed to the ER a year or so prior for a severe injury, where my operation was mostly painless, and my main recovery was just 5 days, my parents were sympathetic and supportive the whole time.
That's why I said a "perfect" child never gets sick or injured, unless it's too severe for "perfection" to be a priority.
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By contrast, when I had to be rushed to the ER a year or so prior for a severe injury, where my operation was mostly painless, and my main recovery was just 5 days, my parents were sympathetic and supportive the whole time.
That's why I said a "perfect" child never gets sick or injured, unless it's too severe for "perfection" to be a priority.
Counterpoint: The closer to passing away your child gets the lower the standard for perfect becomes.
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So... when the medical transport van brought me home after that severe injury, and my parents carried me to my bed, then treated me like they'd treat someone else's perfect child, I lived like a king for a week! Good times!
It's eerily interesting how the ER staff at that hospital treated my 9-year-old self with the dignity they'd treat a 60-something investment banker, while most pediatric "specialists" at clinics acted patronizing and/or dismissive with me.
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