Looks and likability

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Calling a spade a spade is not “taking it personally.”

You still seem to take it personally.

Do people need to “take things personally” in order to stand up for other people or to speak out about problematic outlooks?

I don’t think that’s the case.

In any case, it doesn’t matter in the context of this thread. People are free to state their opinions as they see fit as long as no rules are broken.

Last edited by TwilightPrincess on 07 Aug 2022, 9:47 am, edited 1 time in total.

Absolutely. A fake smile LOOKS fake.

I’ve been in relationships where somebody is always in a bad mood…..no matter how much you try to help this person. Or express empathy, sympathy, attempt to provide an ear, etc. These people have been physically attractive.

And I’ve been in relationships where a plain-looking person always sought to see the positive aspect of things. This made her easier to get along with. When this person smiled genuinely, the whole room lit up.

It’s just not pleasant being around a person whose bad mood is constant within all situations. It’s like living in a minefield when the simplest thing could be interpreted negatively.

Last edited by kraftiekortie on 07 Aug 2022, 9:52 am, edited 1 time in total.

Often, people who have depression struggle with this, and it’s not something they can fully control. It is difficult to date people who are depressed, and it would probably be a good idea for such individuals to work on improving their mental state before dating.

Ideally they shouldn't take things personally and ideally they should understand that if a man sees an obese woman, then they can assume that said individual has eaten too many calories and doesn't care as much about their health than a slim woman.

Assuming this is not a problematic outlook. It's just a fact and you took issue with it. There are other members here who choose there words very carefully on this thread and you still take issue with what they say.

The whole vibe of most of your responses just seem like you taken it all personally.

Oh, but you didn’t just say that. You made all sorts of claims about obese women’s character. A person doesn’t have to take things personally in order to critique that mindset.



We may have different perceptions here.



If you don’t like them, you don’t have to read or respond to them.

These are the sorts of offensive comment I’m talking about although there are many others. They are hurtful AND unnecessary.

What I see an experienced personally is exactly that. If find if someone takes pride in their looks they take pride in most aspects of their life.

This thread has gotten to be a circus. There are a couple of people here, one in particular, who aren't really playing with a full deck although they may not come across that way in this forum. Others whose opinion I respect however I don't necessarily agree with all their opinions but don't think they should be attacked for expressing them. And others of whom I could say I quite honestly don't know what their deal is.

Maybe there are other threads like this but somehow this one stands out. If you happen to live in the Eastern US maybe it's time you had another cup of coffee.

It’s caffeine soda for me

Can’t stand coffee!

I seek to play with a Royal Flush. Playing with all 52 is a waste of space.

Last edited by kraftiekortie on 07 Aug 2022, 10:18 am, edited 1 time in total.

Oh okay. Your stance regarding obese women’s moral character is based on personal opinion and lacks true substance or merit.

Thanks for the clarification.

Be that as it may, I have observed the same correlative behavior many times — If someone takes pride in their looks they also seem to take pride in many other aspects of their life.

Of course, this does not preclude someone being obsessed with their appearance due to deep-seated insecurity.

Have you seen this quote (and others):

As individuals who have been marginalized ourselves in some way, one would think we’d be above denigrating other people who are also marginalized.

Something, somewhere, causes people to overeat more often than not it seems. This "something" often comes in the form of baggage of some description. Not only that but completely excluding the cause, the obesity and body image issues is a major obstacle with many people and no amount of "you look pretty" ever seems to solve it. Only proactively losing weight can.

I have to draw a line when people insist on having sex in the pitch dark because they weigh 300 pounds. Ive honestly tried to accept obese people for who they are but I just keep running into endless problems that more attractive women rarely have.

And I've honestly never seen two attractive women at each others throats. What I observe isn't my fault.

Personal observation is too limited and subject to bias to say anything about the entire, obese, female population. I try to avoid making similar judgment calls based on similarly limited evidence.

I don’t have an issue about your personal preferences when it comes to dating. The hurtful comments are just not necessary IMO.