Revisiting the speed dating subject
21 year olds don’t dress like that…
Jeans and a decent tee shirt or button-down are fine.
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Better to reign in Hell than serve in Heaven. – Satan and TwilightPrincess
Last edited by TwilightPrincess on 04 Aug 2022, 3:13 pm, edited 1 time in total.
You only get around 5 minutes to convince someone that they should see you again. 5 minutes…
5 minutes really isn’t much time to determine whether or not someone truly is a good fit for you, so it’s probably going to based off of who you find attractive, who you find the most charming, or who you have some things in common with, mostly surface level stuff.
OP, I think your best bet, with the little time you have, is to ask what their hobbies and interests are and try to look for things you have in common. At the same time, express what you’re into, and see whether or not there’s some common ground between you two.
If your date is a 8/10 sorority girl who’s idea of fun is going out, drinking, and partying, and you’re a nerd that’d rather play music and stay home and play video games, you two probably aren’t that compatible. That’s just assuming she even wants to see you again. My guess is sorority girls who like clubbing are choosing guys mostly based off of looks.
Don’t exclusively go for the hottest girls in the room either.
How did you “find” that to be the case? Did you try it?
I doubt that it’s a good method, but who knows? Maybe it will work for this poster.
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Better to reign in Hell than serve in Heaven. – Satan and TwilightPrincess
Also, age is a factor. Many (not all) women in their early twenties are in their “party phase” and have no internet in a serious relationship, and are primarily choosing partners based on surface level features. Who’s better looking or who has more charm or “game”.
Women in their early twenties are also notoriously picky and flaky by nature. It’s peak beauty which is oftentimes combined with peak emotional immaturity.
So personally OP, don’t be surprised if you don’t get any women who want to see you again. Don’t take it personally, it’s just that young women by nature, are far more picky than men are.
Women in their early twenties are also notoriously picky and flaky by nature. It’s peak beauty which is oftentimes combined with peak emotional immaturity.
So personally OP, don’t be surprised if you don’t get any women who want to see you again. Don’t take it personally, it’s just that young women by nature, are far more picky than men are.
I wasn’t at all like that in my early 20s, nor are many, many others.
We don’t need to make this about gender.
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Better to reign in Hell than serve in Heaven. – Satan and TwilightPrincess
Women in their early twenties are also notoriously picky and flaky by nature. It’s peak beauty which is oftentimes combined with peak emotional immaturity.
So personally OP, don’t be surprised if you don’t get any women who want to see you again. Don’t take it personally, it’s just that young women by nature, are far more picky than men are.
I wasn’t at all like that in my early 20s, nor are many, many others.
We don’t need to make this about gender.
Depends on the demographic of women OP is going after.
I’d stay away from sorority girls, especially if they tell you they like to go clubbing and get absolutely wasted every weekend.
I went on several dates with a girl like that and she was the worst person I ever went out with.
It’s disturbing.
Young 20 year olds of both genders aren’t known for their wisdom and maturity. This isn’t a gender thing.
With that being said, there’s plenty of young men and women out there who do not fit into that mold. It’s by no means hopeless.
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Better to reign in Hell than serve in Heaven. – Satan and TwilightPrincess
Women in their early twenties are also notoriously picky and flaky by nature. It’s peak beauty which is oftentimes combined with peak emotional immaturity.
So personally OP, don’t be surprised if you don’t get any women who want to see you again. Don’t take it personally, it’s just that young women by nature, are far more picky than men are.
I wasn’t at all like that in my early 20s, nor are many, many others.
We don’t need to make this about gender.
Depends on the demographic of women OP is going after.
I’d stay away from sorority girls, especially if they tell you they like to go clubbing and get absolutely wasted every weekend.
I went on several dates with a girl like that and she was the worst person I ever went out with.
So that one girl you dated is representative of the entire sorority (and young women) population?
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Better to reign in Hell than serve in Heaven. – Satan and TwilightPrincess
To me, having only five minutes to make an impression always seemed kind of a brutal way to go about meeting Mr./Ms. Right and establishing a lifelong marital commitment. The speed-dating seems more suited to trying for a job than trying for a mate.
To me, having only five minutes to make an impression always seemed kind of a brutal way to go about meeting Mr./Ms. Right and establishing a lifelong marital commitment.
I probably wouldn’t enjoy competing for a date. There would always be someone more attractive and interesting, so the chances of being chosen by one’s desired partner is probably slim.
Of course, who knows? Maybe sparks could fly somehow within those 5 minutes with someone. Trying is better than not trying, especially if this isn’t the only attempt.
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Better to reign in Hell than serve in Heaven. – Satan and TwilightPrincess
Another similar process involves hiring, in that the candidate asks for an interview with the potential employer, and they have just a few minutes to make the right first impression.
Too bad that some men seem to think that all they have to do is say the right words to any woman and "bang", they have a girlfriend, regardless of how the man looks or behaves.
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