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16 Aug 2022, 12:45 pm

kraftiekortie wrote:
But what makes your son embarrassed about having people know he likes cats?
Maybe he thinks liking cats is effeminate, as cats are often associated with feminine traits. And for a 13-year-old boy, having feminine interests is often stigmatized.

This raises the question: How does the OP's son feel about dogs?


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16 Aug 2022, 1:33 pm

I've never heard this, actually.

There were lots of things which were considered "feminine"---like hop scotch, and jumping rope, or playing with girls in general.

I lived in a culture which was pretty "macho." You were a punk if you "ratted" on somebody, for example

I've never heard a disparaging thing said about a boy who likes cats. It was seen as being a natural thing----like boys liking dogs.


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17 Aug 2022, 5:33 am

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17 Aug 2022, 9:09 am

To me, this is not two types of masking.
More like two types of circumstances of masking.

I have my own distinction of what type of masking is which.

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