Speed Dating Event For People With Disabilities. Interested?

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If There Were A Speed Dating Event In Your City With Disabilities, Would You Be Interested?
I'm a straight man and yes 38%  38%  [ 5 ]
I'm a straight man and no 15%  15%  [ 2 ]
I'm a gay man and yes 8%  8%  [ 1 ]
I'm a gay man and no 0%  0%  [ 0 ]
I'm a man and no but only because I am taken. 15%  15%  [ 2 ]
I'm a straight woman and yes 0%  0%  [ 0 ]
i'm a straight woman and no 8%  8%  [ 1 ]
I'm a lesbian and yes 0%  0%  [ 0 ]
I'm a lesbian and no 0%  0%  [ 0 ]
I'm a woman and no but only because I am taken. 8%  8%  [ 1 ]
Just show me the results. 8%  8%  [ 1 ]
Total votes : 13

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20 Aug 2022, 11:04 pm

If you've ever seen the show Love On The Spectrum, episodes will oftentimes feature speed dating events, specifically for people with disabilities, as a way for their contestants to meet potential romantic prospects.

With that said, if there were a speed-dating event in your area, specifically for people of all disabilities, would you be interested in attending? Why or why not?



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22 Aug 2022, 6:46 pm

Muse933277 wrote:
If you've ever seen the show Love On The Spectrum, episodes will oftentimes feature speed dating events, specifically for people with disabilities, as a way for their contestants to meet potential romantic prospects.

With that said, if there were a speed-dating event in your area, specifically for people of all disabilities, would you be interested in attending? Why or why not?

No I would not because I have had girlfriends that were not disabled.It would have to be a very mild disability for me to date someone who was disabled.Like I would not mind dating someone who was like a really smart woman who had the same disabilty I do but I would not date someone who was blind or something because I would like to hunt with my wife.



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22 Aug 2022, 6:57 pm

Given a choice, I advise everyone to stay away from people with mental disorders. Meaning don't go to such events. You will save yourself from a difficult decision if you just don't meet that person.


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22 Aug 2022, 7:19 pm

No, I don't make a good first impression and I don't think an Elevator Pitch is any way to find a partner. I'm not that desperate to go on a date that I'd even try to sell myself in 30 seconds.

As for "Love on the Spectrum - I think its vile that they are packaging people with autism and selling them as "inspiration porn" or objects of pitty for television ratings.



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23 Aug 2022, 7:53 am

Yeah, I'd have no problem with that, though I'd be more interested in a speed dating event specifically for neurodivergent individuals.



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25 Aug 2022, 2:38 pm

r00tb33r wrote:
Given a choice, I advise everyone to stay away from people with mental disorders. Meaning don't go to such events. You will save yourself from a difficult decision if you just don't meet that person.
Autism is considered a mental disorder & disability so are you saying that no one should be in a relationship with us autistics including fellow autistics :scratch: Have you decided to remain single for the rest of you life since you have autism & no should be in a relationship with you? I apologize if you don't mean it that way & I misunderstood, please explain if I did.

I tend to get along a lot better with some people who have so-called mental disorders &/or physical disabilities than I do with typical NTs. NTs don't understand me & expect things from me that I could never meet. All 3 of the relationships I've had were with people who had mental disorders & the one with the most problems who also had physical disabilitties is the one I'm able to make a relationship work with.

My vote on the poll is~ "I'm a man and no but only because I am taken". I would be interested if I was single but I would have extremely LOW expectations. I would expect it to have a much higher ratio of guys than women due to the different gender roles with dating & relationships, especially where I lived for the 1st 30 years of my life. Also like Daniel mentioned, I don't make good 1st impressions to most people. My good qualities are things that people are not able to see at 1st glace & it takes time for people to get to know me a bit before they can be realized. My initial 1st impression qualities are things most others would be turned off by when seeking a potential relationship partner. Still as the expression goes, "Nothing ventured, nothing gained" & there might be a very slim chance I could meet a partner that way.

As for the statement of the show "Love on the Spectrum packaging people with autism and selling them as "inspiration porn" or objects of pitty for television ratings". I never watched it but I've heard they helped set some people up with a relationship. I imagine that the people considering going on that show are extremely desperate & have not had much luck except maybe bad. They might be happy if they could get a partner even if their situation is being exploited in the process. If I was not so shy & had that option when I was single, I probably would of reached out to em if there was a chance I could get a partner.


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25 Aug 2022, 3:40 pm

nick007 wrote:
r00tb33r wrote:
Given a choice, I advise everyone to stay away from people with mental disorders. Meaning don't go to such events. You will save yourself from a difficult decision if you just don't meet that person.
Autism is considered a mental disorder & disability so are you saying that no one should be in a relationship with us autistics including fellow autistics :scratch: Have you decided to remain single for the rest of you life since you have autism & no should be in a relationship with you? I apologize if you don't mean it that way & I misunderstood, please explain if I did.

We meet the people that we meet, and we accept them as they are. Given a choice, not meeting me without knowing me is for the better. That's the brutal truth. I don't consider myself mentally ill, but we may disagree on the definition. Likewise, Asperger's (ASD level 1) is not a legally recognized disability, at least where I live, and I don't consider myself disabled.

Now, if it happens, you end up in a situation where you're attached to a person who may be very sick in the head, but you're too attached to leave. You don't want to be in that situation if you can avoid it from happening.


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25 Aug 2022, 4:41 pm

I'd be interested. I don't want to date non-disabled or neurotypical people anymore. Been there, done that...these days I'd rather either just stay single or explore a connection with someone a bit more like me.

Though I don't love the idea of speed dating, it can be hard for disabled and/or neurodivergent people to actually find each other in the first place, so maybe it could be good for that. I'm also never against an opportunity to just make a new friend.



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25 Aug 2022, 5:13 pm

r00tb33r wrote:
nick007 wrote:
r00tb33r wrote:
Given a choice, I advise everyone to stay away from people with mental disorders. Meaning don't go to such events. You will save yourself from a difficult decision if you just don't meet that person.
Autism is considered a mental disorder & disability so are you saying that no one should be in a relationship with us autistics including fellow autistics :scratch: Have you decided to remain single for the rest of you life since you have autism & no should be in a relationship with you? I apologize if you don't mean it that way & I misunderstood, please explain if I did.

We meet the people that we meet, and we accept them as they are. Given a choice, not meeting me without knowing me is for the better. That's the brutal truth. I don't consider myself mentally ill, but we may disagree on the definition. Likewise, Asperger's (ASD level 1) is not a legally recognized disability, at least where I live, and I don't consider myself disabled.

Now, if it happens, you end up in a situation where you're attached to a person who may be very sick in the head, but you're too attached to leave. You don't want to be in that situation if you can avoid it from happening.
I'm well aware that I have LOTS issues, disabilities, limitations, & faults compared to normal people but I also believe that I have some very good qualities as well & that the right person for me is better off with me in her life or at least not worse off overall. I tend to be very attracted to people because they have mental issues. Some things make them a lot more relatable to me. Even if we do have different things, we can relate to being different & having issues & we can be more accepting of each other. Me & my current girlfriend are both too attached to leave each other but we are also both very attracted to the other despite that we do have major issues & problems. We would much rather be with each other than be single.


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